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<blockquote data-quote="galadriel" data-source="post: 372364"><p>I am very much in sympathy with you right now. I have twin boys who are now 18 and will be starting community college next month. Both dropped out; both are weed and cigarette users and alcoholics. They both help themselves to our credit cards but they are maxed out so they go for the debit cards, they will come into our room at night and take my purse from my nightstand. One kid has worked for a year full time but all his minimum wage goes for the drugs and he's out of money by Monday and borrowing cash from us. The other kid won't work, he states he shouldn't have to as he's too good for fast food jobs. Most of their things such as TV and Xbox have gone missing and it turned out they were pawned. I am the enabler, my husband then blames me. I keep wanting to trust the boys and give them a chance. </p><p> </p><p>Non-worker difficult child has now gotten an apartment with a friend that is affordable using his college fund for room and board. He swears when school starts in three weeks he will attend and excel so he can keep getting the college funds. If he fails we cannot give him any more, because the fund only allows withdrawals for a fulltime student. husband says he'll fail, I think he can do it. Oh, and difficult child has a DWI pending wherein he wrecked the family mini-van and lost his license. He has to sign up for alcohol assessment but hasn't yet and he hired his own attorney who is working out a payment plan directly with the kid. Guess the kid isn't too good for fast food now....</p><p> </p><p>It's been a relief to get one out of the house even if it's tapping into the kid's college fund. I also want to move away, I daydream about going out to my sister in Washington state. </p><p> </p><p>I can't offer any suggestions for you, since I am in the same boat. Just my sympathy!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="galadriel, post: 372364"] I am very much in sympathy with you right now. I have twin boys who are now 18 and will be starting community college next month. Both dropped out; both are weed and cigarette users and alcoholics. They both help themselves to our credit cards but they are maxed out so they go for the debit cards, they will come into our room at night and take my purse from my nightstand. One kid has worked for a year full time but all his minimum wage goes for the drugs and he's out of money by Monday and borrowing cash from us. The other kid won't work, he states he shouldn't have to as he's too good for fast food jobs. Most of their things such as TV and Xbox have gone missing and it turned out they were pawned. I am the enabler, my husband then blames me. I keep wanting to trust the boys and give them a chance. Non-worker difficult child has now gotten an apartment with a friend that is affordable using his college fund for room and board. He swears when school starts in three weeks he will attend and excel so he can keep getting the college funds. If he fails we cannot give him any more, because the fund only allows withdrawals for a fulltime student. husband says he'll fail, I think he can do it. Oh, and difficult child has a DWI pending wherein he wrecked the family mini-van and lost his license. He has to sign up for alcohol assessment but hasn't yet and he hired his own attorney who is working out a payment plan directly with the kid. Guess the kid isn't too good for fast food now.... It's been a relief to get one out of the house even if it's tapping into the kid's college fund. I also want to move away, I daydream about going out to my sister in Washington state. I can't offer any suggestions for you, since I am in the same boat. Just my sympathy!! [/QUOTE]
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