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18 year old daughter that smokes pot a lot
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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 730791" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Just to give you some idea, I knew and adored and loved a man who smoked pot for many years. He was one of the most intelligent and productive men I ever met. He started a restaurant that is still a state favorite and grew into a chain, though the first store earned over $2 million a year for quite a few years before that happened. He worked in the restaurant every day long after most people would have retired. He turned down the opportunity to run the organization that sets up the chess matches that are so prestigious (I never can remember the name), mostly because the idea of living in NYC was just abhorrent to him. He was maybe not the best father but he was an AMAZING grandfather. His sons smoked a TON of pot all through high school and college, but they also got good grades because not getting them was NOT acceptable. Not being productive and not having an inquisitive mind simply were not things that happened in their family. </p><p></p><p>I knew some people with incredible minds who accomplished amazing things, though some of those things were not typical things, who smoked pot. They all supported themselves and were contributing members of society. They are all still contributing members of society. The ones I knew who were not contributing members of society were seriously mentally ill.</p><p></p><p>You have EVERY right to set the rules that you want for YOUR HOME. If that includes no pot in any form, then that is perfectly acceptable. That is the rule in MY home. Why? Pot isn't legal in my state and I have a thing about following the law. Plus I hate smoke in any form. Would I insist my child move out if they smoked pot in my home? Probably not the first time. My youngest is 18 and going to college in the fall. If he starts doing that and his grades are bad, I will talk to my husband. If he smokes in my house a second or third time? I will probably make him leave. He has asthma and I won't watch him do that to himself. I just know I cannot handle that. I am pretty tough on my kids because I cannot handle seeing certain things. It tears me up too badly, so I protect myself. </p><p></p><p>Pot alone doesn't mean that a person is addicted or has a problem. You have to look at the total circumstances, in my opinion. If they are self supporting and a contributing member of society, I don't have a big problem with it and I never have. However, if they are living with their parents, it CLEARLY means they don't meet those criteria!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 730791, member: 1233"] Just to give you some idea, I knew and adored and loved a man who smoked pot for many years. He was one of the most intelligent and productive men I ever met. He started a restaurant that is still a state favorite and grew into a chain, though the first store earned over $2 million a year for quite a few years before that happened. He worked in the restaurant every day long after most people would have retired. He turned down the opportunity to run the organization that sets up the chess matches that are so prestigious (I never can remember the name), mostly because the idea of living in NYC was just abhorrent to him. He was maybe not the best father but he was an AMAZING grandfather. His sons smoked a TON of pot all through high school and college, but they also got good grades because not getting them was NOT acceptable. Not being productive and not having an inquisitive mind simply were not things that happened in their family. I knew some people with incredible minds who accomplished amazing things, though some of those things were not typical things, who smoked pot. They all supported themselves and were contributing members of society. They are all still contributing members of society. The ones I knew who were not contributing members of society were seriously mentally ill. You have EVERY right to set the rules that you want for YOUR HOME. If that includes no pot in any form, then that is perfectly acceptable. That is the rule in MY home. Why? Pot isn't legal in my state and I have a thing about following the law. Plus I hate smoke in any form. Would I insist my child move out if they smoked pot in my home? Probably not the first time. My youngest is 18 and going to college in the fall. If he starts doing that and his grades are bad, I will talk to my husband. If he smokes in my house a second or third time? I will probably make him leave. He has asthma and I won't watch him do that to himself. I just know I cannot handle that. I am pretty tough on my kids because I cannot handle seeing certain things. It tears me up too badly, so I protect myself. Pot alone doesn't mean that a person is addicted or has a problem. You have to look at the total circumstances, in my opinion. If they are self supporting and a contributing member of society, I don't have a big problem with it and I never have. However, if they are living with their parents, it CLEARLY means they don't meet those criteria! [/QUOTE]
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