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18 yo.....two arrests in one week
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<blockquote data-quote="AmericanGirl" data-source="post: 490469"><p>Thank you all for your replies.</p><p></p><p>He is in outpatient treatment 12 hours a week plus another meeting. That is why I haven't responded til now as it is out of town slightly and I have to drive him back and forth.</p><p></p><p>I am attending a weekly meeting for family plus reading some Al-Anon literature.</p><p></p><p>He has been on and off his Wellbutrin for a while now. Told me yesterday his ex-girlfriend could tell whether he was taking it or not...that they fought more when he didn't. Says he cannot remember to take it. He did agree to give me the bottle for the rest of Christmas break and to take them when I bring to him. Am hoping these may help to stabilize his mood and then he can built from there.</p><p></p><p>Found out tonight that even though the treatment said my insurance should pay 100% that it won't pay anything. $5000 if he completes program. They said insurance usually pay $1790. Am hoping we can work something out when they call tomorrow.</p><p></p><p>At the same time, difficult child has a speeding ticket due on 1/4 for $147. He refuses to do any work around the house for cash...unless he needs cigarettes. He says they can just put him in jail. Guess he doesn't need to return to college in January.</p><p></p><p>Then, difficult child has court for DUI in late Jan. Attorney thinks he will get 30-days suspended license, court costs and DUI school. That will total close to $800. He can claim youthful offender.</p><p></p><p>In February, difficult child has court for third degree theft. No attorney for that one but DUI attorney thinks about $400. Likely no youthful offender. Its a one shot deal.</p><p></p><p>I truly believe difficult child is depressed and has been for a while. At the same time, he refuses to deal with his feelings so they end up haunting him. Praying the Wellbutrin kicks in.</p><p></p><p>He has put in numerous job applications. Nothing so far.</p><p></p><p>Tonight he threw a fit. Told me to just throw him out on the side of the road, that he knew I wanted to. I managed to stay calm. Am trying to remember he is 18, emotional, afraid, etc. But he is 23 days sober.</p><p></p><p>Trying to find the balance between detaching and still being kind. Really hard. Don't want to enable. Want him to see a way out. Trouble is.....all his troubles appeared at once so it is a big pile.</p><p></p><p>I know you ALL know how hard this is. Being a single mom, dad out of picture for 15 years, tiny family....it just feels so alone. Am sitting on the floor of my bathroom typing this because I am trying to lay low tonight and keep the peace.</p><p></p><p>Thanks for listening....</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="AmericanGirl, post: 490469"] Thank you all for your replies. He is in outpatient treatment 12 hours a week plus another meeting. That is why I haven't responded til now as it is out of town slightly and I have to drive him back and forth. I am attending a weekly meeting for family plus reading some Al-Anon literature. He has been on and off his Wellbutrin for a while now. Told me yesterday his ex-girlfriend could tell whether he was taking it or not...that they fought more when he didn't. Says he cannot remember to take it. He did agree to give me the bottle for the rest of Christmas break and to take them when I bring to him. Am hoping these may help to stabilize his mood and then he can built from there. Found out tonight that even though the treatment said my insurance should pay 100% that it won't pay anything. $5000 if he completes program. They said insurance usually pay $1790. Am hoping we can work something out when they call tomorrow. At the same time, difficult child has a speeding ticket due on 1/4 for $147. He refuses to do any work around the house for cash...unless he needs cigarettes. He says they can just put him in jail. Guess he doesn't need to return to college in January. Then, difficult child has court for DUI in late Jan. Attorney thinks he will get 30-days suspended license, court costs and DUI school. That will total close to $800. He can claim youthful offender. In February, difficult child has court for third degree theft. No attorney for that one but DUI attorney thinks about $400. Likely no youthful offender. Its a one shot deal. I truly believe difficult child is depressed and has been for a while. At the same time, he refuses to deal with his feelings so they end up haunting him. Praying the Wellbutrin kicks in. He has put in numerous job applications. Nothing so far. Tonight he threw a fit. Told me to just throw him out on the side of the road, that he knew I wanted to. I managed to stay calm. Am trying to remember he is 18, emotional, afraid, etc. But he is 23 days sober. Trying to find the balance between detaching and still being kind. Really hard. Don't want to enable. Want him to see a way out. Trouble is.....all his troubles appeared at once so it is a big pile. I know you ALL know how hard this is. Being a single mom, dad out of picture for 15 years, tiny family....it just feels so alone. Am sitting on the floor of my bathroom typing this because I am trying to lay low tonight and keep the peace. Thanks for listening.... [/QUOTE]
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