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19 year old mentally ill son terrorizing family.
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<blockquote data-quote="Smithmom" data-source="post: 740521" data-attributes="member: 23371"><p>Weary Mom,</p><p></p><p>Think you need to separate legally getting him out from keeping him out/ retaliation from having the strength to stick with your decisions. Legally getting him out is the easiest part really. He's 19. You have reasons. If you have police reports it will happen legally. Then comes the tough part. Sure change the locks. I had my neighbors calling the cops when he would be breaking in. Post a copy of eviction/ trespass order to inside of your front door/ window in case he does something like convince locksmith he's just locked out. </p><p></p><p>Couple of suggestions:</p><p></p><p>1. Before you do anything talk to your parents. Harder for them. Work with them so they have a plan when he shows up at their door. A plan that they can stick to. They can get a no trespass order when you do. Easier for them if they go to court with you to get their own in the same hearing. </p><p>2. Don't bring your younger son home for a few weeks. There will be a few weeks of chaos.</p><p>3. Ask your police dept if they have social workers who can walk you through this. They can get cops to help you more effectively than you can..</p><p>4. Police social workers can give you contacts for help for you and your son. Can get him admitted to hospital or placements more easily. </p><p></p><p>If your town does not have police social workers ask at courthouse for victim advocates. Will be a lot easier on you if you have someone locally to go through the process with you. If you still can't find anyone call your local mental health society. They may have volunteers to help. This is hard. Reach out locally.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Smithmom, post: 740521, member: 23371"] Weary Mom, Think you need to separate legally getting him out from keeping him out/ retaliation from having the strength to stick with your decisions. Legally getting him out is the easiest part really. He's 19. You have reasons. If you have police reports it will happen legally. Then comes the tough part. Sure change the locks. I had my neighbors calling the cops when he would be breaking in. Post a copy of eviction/ trespass order to inside of your front door/ window in case he does something like convince locksmith he's just locked out. Couple of suggestions: 1. Before you do anything talk to your parents. Harder for them. Work with them so they have a plan when he shows up at their door. A plan that they can stick to. They can get a no trespass order when you do. Easier for them if they go to court with you to get their own in the same hearing. 2. Don't bring your younger son home for a few weeks. There will be a few weeks of chaos. 3. Ask your police dept if they have social workers who can walk you through this. They can get cops to help you more effectively than you can.. 4. Police social workers can give you contacts for help for you and your son. Can get him admitted to hospital or placements more easily. If your town does not have police social workers ask at courthouse for victim advocates. Will be a lot easier on you if you have someone locally to go through the process with you. If you still can't find anyone call your local mental health society. They may have volunteers to help. This is hard. Reach out locally. [/QUOTE]
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