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19 yr son who steals.
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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 719146" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>I'm so sorry you are having to deal with this. Sadly, it's a very common thing here, our adult children stealing from us.</p><p></p><p>Your top priority needs to be protecting your finances. I know that it's a hassle to have change all your direct payments but it's necessary. Something you might consider is putting a credit freeze on all three reporting agencies, Trans Union, Experian, Equifax. There is a small fee but if your son would try to open an account using your info it would be declined because of the freeze. You can also put a fraud alert on them. I have done this myself. </p><p>I would limit yourself to one debit card and one credit card. As for checks, I would not keep them in the house. </p><p>Here's the thing, your son lives in your house and I'm sure there are times he's there when you are not. As much as we would like to trust our kids, they snoop. Your son may know your ss#, date of birth, mothers maiden name, etc..... </p><p>I'm glad you have a strong box but if it were me and I could go back and do it all over again, I would get a safety deposit box at a bank. I too had a safe, my son stole it!!</p><p>One time when my son was about to be released from jail, he told me he needed my ss#. When I asked him why he said it was so he could get an ID. I called the jail and asked them about it. They told me under no circumstance should I give that info to my son. They said my son could use it to open credit card accounts or worse, sell it on the dark web.</p><p>I do hope your son will pay you back but I think you are wise to be guarded about it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 719146, member: 18516"] I'm so sorry you are having to deal with this. Sadly, it's a very common thing here, our adult children stealing from us. Your top priority needs to be protecting your finances. I know that it's a hassle to have change all your direct payments but it's necessary. Something you might consider is putting a credit freeze on all three reporting agencies, Trans Union, Experian, Equifax. There is a small fee but if your son would try to open an account using your info it would be declined because of the freeze. You can also put a fraud alert on them. I have done this myself. I would limit yourself to one debit card and one credit card. As for checks, I would not keep them in the house. Here's the thing, your son lives in your house and I'm sure there are times he's there when you are not. As much as we would like to trust our kids, they snoop. Your son may know your ss#, date of birth, mothers maiden name, etc..... I'm glad you have a strong box but if it were me and I could go back and do it all over again, I would get a safety deposit box at a bank. I too had a safe, my son stole it!! One time when my son was about to be released from jail, he told me he needed my ss#. When I asked him why he said it was so he could get an ID. I called the jail and asked them about it. They told me under no circumstance should I give that info to my son. They said my son could use it to open credit card accounts or worse, sell it on the dark web. I do hope your son will pay you back but I think you are wise to be guarded about it. [/QUOTE]
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