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19 yr son who steals.
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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 719184" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Make him sell and/or pawn his stuff, including that phone, to pay you back. I would INSIST that you have custody of his phone with the apple pay thing on it from now one. I would cancel the contract on the phone also. So what if it ruins his credit? That is HIS consequence for stealing from you. Or let him pay the phone bill, but don't let him use the phone or have another one while he lives with you. </p><p></p><p>Also tell him that the very next charge that is made by him will result in a call to the cops and you will press charges and throw him out. Then do it.</p><p></p><p>He is an adult. Adults have consequences. You are teaching him that it is okay to steal. Is that truly what you intend? Because it is what you are doing. If you don't intend to do this, start giving him harsh consequences. </p><p></p><p>My own children know that if they steal, they have to give the item back. They also have to pay for the item even though they don't get to keep it. If they stole from a store they also take whatever the store imposes as consequences. If we had to drive a long distance to get to the store, they have to pay for my time and gas to get back to the store (it is 75 miles to get to a large city). We have always done this and would be even harsher if this didn't work.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 719184, member: 1233"] Make him sell and/or pawn his stuff, including that phone, to pay you back. I would INSIST that you have custody of his phone with the apple pay thing on it from now one. I would cancel the contract on the phone also. So what if it ruins his credit? That is HIS consequence for stealing from you. Or let him pay the phone bill, but don't let him use the phone or have another one while he lives with you. Also tell him that the very next charge that is made by him will result in a call to the cops and you will press charges and throw him out. Then do it. He is an adult. Adults have consequences. You are teaching him that it is okay to steal. Is that truly what you intend? Because it is what you are doing. If you don't intend to do this, start giving him harsh consequences. My own children know that if they steal, they have to give the item back. They also have to pay for the item even though they don't get to keep it. If they stole from a store they also take whatever the store imposes as consequences. If we had to drive a long distance to get to the store, they have to pay for my time and gas to get back to the store (it is 75 miles to get to a large city). We have always done this and would be even harsher if this didn't work. [/QUOTE]
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