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19yo son spiraling downward - pls help
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<blockquote data-quote="SoFla Mom" data-source="post: 664601" data-attributes="member: 19449"><p>Thank you so very much. This forum has already been so helpful. Reading other parents' stories and knowing I'm not alone. </p><p></p><p>As the tears are running down my face, I just can't stop thinking - how did this happen? I'm alone here with him, since my husband left 5 years ago (for a younger woman, no less) I'm a successful business owner and have provided everything (not in excess) for him, and he knows he's loved. </p><p></p><p>He's like Jekyll and Hyde. Awesome, sweet, helpful, funny, smart, kind - and defiant, lazy, angry, hurtful and now destructive. </p><p></p><p>I do not give him any money, he works almost full time. He pays only for his gas and expenses (drugs, I guess) - he doesn't make much. I see his pay deposited in his account. I do cover insurance and of course a roof over his head. </p><p></p><p>I am already looking into Al anon groups and I have an awesome therapist. I think I'll need both. </p><p></p><p>But what do I do if/when he comes back here? He isn't likely to listen to me. He says I'm so dramatic - really? Slashing walls isn't normal behavior. I know he needs help. Do I change the locks? Force him to figure it out on his own? </p><p></p><p>I know I won't see or hear from him at least for a few days. I have a detective friend keeping his eyes and ears open for anything that may match his description. Don't know what else to do. </p><p></p><p>I hear kids are smoking some kind of oil now that doesn't smell - since I haven't smelled any weed - I'm guessing that's what it may be? </p><p></p><p>Thank you so much.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SoFla Mom, post: 664601, member: 19449"] Thank you so very much. This forum has already been so helpful. Reading other parents' stories and knowing I'm not alone. As the tears are running down my face, I just can't stop thinking - how did this happen? I'm alone here with him, since my husband left 5 years ago (for a younger woman, no less) I'm a successful business owner and have provided everything (not in excess) for him, and he knows he's loved. He's like Jekyll and Hyde. Awesome, sweet, helpful, funny, smart, kind - and defiant, lazy, angry, hurtful and now destructive. I do not give him any money, he works almost full time. He pays only for his gas and expenses (drugs, I guess) - he doesn't make much. I see his pay deposited in his account. I do cover insurance and of course a roof over his head. I am already looking into Al anon groups and I have an awesome therapist. I think I'll need both. But what do I do if/when he comes back here? He isn't likely to listen to me. He says I'm so dramatic - really? Slashing walls isn't normal behavior. I know he needs help. Do I change the locks? Force him to figure it out on his own? I know I won't see or hear from him at least for a few days. I have a detective friend keeping his eyes and ears open for anything that may match his description. Don't know what else to do. I hear kids are smoking some kind of oil now that doesn't smell - since I haven't smelled any weed - I'm guessing that's what it may be? Thank you so much. [/QUOTE]
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