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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 96234" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Sweetie, I know how you feel. I've been there. Your son, for whatever reason, is refusing help. I think you are doing the right thing. If you took him back, he wouldn't have to think about possibly making life better for himself. Also, don't ask "why." You WERE a good mother. He probably has a genetic predisposition to mental illness, substance abuse, etc. that even all your good mothering couldn't reign in. It's NOT your fault, I wouldn't waste time feeling guilty. </p><p>Maybe God wants you to spend this time on yourself, your needs, your interests, your life. Yes, I know it doesn't seem that way, but we matter too! We're NOT just here for our kids! You like dogs? I do too! I have four...lol. Go buy yourself the sweetest dog in the world--or go to a shelter and adopt one who needs a home. Dogs appreciate us all the time...lol. It's good for the ego and soul. You want some support? Go to an alanon meeting (or the equivalent of a group who has loved ones who do drugs). I got bang up support at those meetings. The support gave me strength and wisdom. </p><p>(((Hugs))) to a wonderful mom. You did your time. Take care of yourself now and don't let your son ruin your life. You can do no more than you already have and it's up to your son now.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 96234, member: 1550"] Sweetie, I know how you feel. I've been there. Your son, for whatever reason, is refusing help. I think you are doing the right thing. If you took him back, he wouldn't have to think about possibly making life better for himself. Also, don't ask "why." You WERE a good mother. He probably has a genetic predisposition to mental illness, substance abuse, etc. that even all your good mothering couldn't reign in. It's NOT your fault, I wouldn't waste time feeling guilty. Maybe God wants you to spend this time on yourself, your needs, your interests, your life. Yes, I know it doesn't seem that way, but we matter too! We're NOT just here for our kids! You like dogs? I do too! I have four...lol. Go buy yourself the sweetest dog in the world--or go to a shelter and adopt one who needs a home. Dogs appreciate us all the time...lol. It's good for the ego and soul. You want some support? Go to an alanon meeting (or the equivalent of a group who has loved ones who do drugs). I got bang up support at those meetings. The support gave me strength and wisdom. (((Hugs))) to a wonderful mom. You did your time. Take care of yourself now and don't let your son ruin your life. You can do no more than you already have and it's up to your son now. [/QUOTE]
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