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<blockquote data-quote="lovemysons" data-source="post: 8490" data-attributes="member: 3305"><p>Thank you for the acknowledgment...wildcatsfan, Lori4ever, and Getting happier. </p><p></p><p>These are baby steps for me...and I think young difficult child "wins" too. </p><p></p><p>He finally did give me a proper apology. I did help him out with that to a degree. Getting him to answer what happend first, second, third etc. He had an expectation he made an assumption and came to a faulty conclusion not to mention his over-the-top emotional state and verbally abusive rant. </p><p></p><p>I am noticing that when I am in "top form" and not allowing myself to be victimized it tends to not get as complicated. The problem is resolved faster and we are both able to move on not dwell in misery and pain. </p><p></p><p>I am a work in progress...just hope I am in ready-shape next time. It certainly is very hard to not take their behavior personally, get defensive/justifying or controlling. These are areas I know I need LOTS and LOTS of help with. </p><p></p><p>Getting happier...Yep, the drug/alcohol use will ensure a more emotional/delusional thought process. There is no way to be effective at all when they are stoned, high, drunk etc. Removing either them or ourselves is likely the best idea when they are in that condition...it's not something I have any power to control that's for sure, it's dangerous. </p><p></p><p>Also wanted to note, young difficult child has not shown up positive on any of the many drug tests he was given over this past 12 months of probation. But, then again, he has never shown up positive.</p><p></p><p>I think he is learning...slowly, but I do see signs of improvement. </p><p></p><p>lovemysons</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="lovemysons, post: 8490, member: 3305"] Thank you for the acknowledgment...wildcatsfan, Lori4ever, and Getting happier. These are baby steps for me...and I think young difficult child "wins" too. He finally did give me a proper apology. I did help him out with that to a degree. Getting him to answer what happend first, second, third etc. He had an expectation he made an assumption and came to a faulty conclusion not to mention his over-the-top emotional state and verbally abusive rant. I am noticing that when I am in "top form" and not allowing myself to be victimized it tends to not get as complicated. The problem is resolved faster and we are both able to move on not dwell in misery and pain. I am a work in progress...just hope I am in ready-shape next time. It certainly is very hard to not take their behavior personally, get defensive/justifying or controlling. These are areas I know I need LOTS and LOTS of help with. Getting happier...Yep, the drug/alcohol use will ensure a more emotional/delusional thought process. There is no way to be effective at all when they are stoned, high, drunk etc. Removing either them or ourselves is likely the best idea when they are in that condition...it's not something I have any power to control that's for sure, it's dangerous. Also wanted to note, young difficult child has not shown up positive on any of the many drug tests he was given over this past 12 months of probation. But, then again, he has never shown up positive. I think he is learning...slowly, but I do see signs of improvement. lovemysons [/QUOTE]
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