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<blockquote data-quote="Shari" data-source="post: 332580" data-attributes="member: 1848"><p>Thanks guys. I appreciate the input.</p><p> </p><p>These 2 scenarios happened within 4 hours of each other. And they pile onto the other little things that peeve me and then I just get royally miffed.</p><p> </p><p>I was actually not upset with husband when he only did the bare minimum to keep me happy with easy child 2. </p><p> </p><p>I had come to the conclusion that at least he'd said something. It did not go un-noticed. I decided I would tell easy child 2 that if she continues to hide peed in clothes, I will stop washing them. And leave it at that. In my mind, he had at least done something and I was halfway happy about it. Definitely ok with it.</p><p> </p><p>Until scenario 2 with wee. When wee gets "stuck", often it takes something "jarring" to get him unstuck. A compelling conversation, something really cool to look at or talk about, something, but its gotta be a "big impact" something. We were on a boring stretch of highway and I was getting nowhere. Sometimes, I will tap the brakes and say I almost hit a rabbit or something to get his attention and that's enough "jar" to jumpstart his noggin again as he'll start looking for the rabbit or something. But yelling at him wasn't needed. But even that didn't bother me...that was far more appropriate than doing NOTHING with easy child 2, after wetting herself <em>again</em>, lying about it <em>again,</em> lying to her Dad, <em>again</em>....all I could think was...how much better would easy child 2 be if she occassionally had the fear of God put into <em>her</em> by daddy...</p><p> </p><p>And then my sister in law made a mention of it. She was really unhappy with husband's lack of action with easy child 2, and I realized she's right. I've been so used to complete inaction that I was gonna walk away happy with almost complete inaction with easy child 2...while his reaction to wee was entirely over the top. Not terrible or child abuse or anything like that, but over the top, nonetheless. And his reaction to easy child 2 was absolutely nothing.</p><p> </p><p>Its not gonna take easy child 2 long to figure out the only one she has to hide from is me. And I tell ya, I'm ready to throw in the towel on that situation.</p><p> </p><p>Even husband's mom, beleive it or not, has asked me to step in and take on another bad guy role with easy child 2. I'm sure she doesn't see it that way, but I dang sure do. Why should I be the one to tell her daddy and grandma thinks she dresses like a homeless tramp? I'll buy her new clothes (as I already do) to replace the trampy koi, but I'm not gonna be the one to tell her why.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Shari, post: 332580, member: 1848"] Thanks guys. I appreciate the input. These 2 scenarios happened within 4 hours of each other. And they pile onto the other little things that peeve me and then I just get royally miffed. I was actually not upset with husband when he only did the bare minimum to keep me happy with easy child 2. I had come to the conclusion that at least he'd said something. It did not go un-noticed. I decided I would tell easy child 2 that if she continues to hide peed in clothes, I will stop washing them. And leave it at that. In my mind, he had at least done something and I was halfway happy about it. Definitely ok with it. Until scenario 2 with wee. When wee gets "stuck", often it takes something "jarring" to get him unstuck. A compelling conversation, something really cool to look at or talk about, something, but its gotta be a "big impact" something. We were on a boring stretch of highway and I was getting nowhere. Sometimes, I will tap the brakes and say I almost hit a rabbit or something to get his attention and that's enough "jar" to jumpstart his noggin again as he'll start looking for the rabbit or something. But yelling at him wasn't needed. But even that didn't bother me...that was far more appropriate than doing NOTHING with easy child 2, after wetting herself [I]again[/I], lying about it [I]again,[/I] lying to her Dad, [I]again[/I]....all I could think was...how much better would easy child 2 be if she occassionally had the fear of God put into [I]her[/I] by daddy... And then my sister in law made a mention of it. She was really unhappy with husband's lack of action with easy child 2, and I realized she's right. I've been so used to complete inaction that I was gonna walk away happy with almost complete inaction with easy child 2...while his reaction to wee was entirely over the top. Not terrible or child abuse or anything like that, but over the top, nonetheless. And his reaction to easy child 2 was absolutely nothing. Its not gonna take easy child 2 long to figure out the only one she has to hide from is me. And I tell ya, I'm ready to throw in the towel on that situation. Even husband's mom, beleive it or not, has asked me to step in and take on another bad guy role with easy child 2. I'm sure she doesn't see it that way, but I dang sure do. Why should I be the one to tell her daddy and grandma thinks she dresses like a homeless tramp? I'll buy her new clothes (as I already do) to replace the trampy koi, but I'm not gonna be the one to tell her why. [/QUOTE]
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