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2007 wrap up/ 2008 resolutions...hopes...dreams
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<blockquote data-quote="flutterbee" data-source="post: 110823"><p>2007 started off about as bad as it can get. difficult child was spiraling hard and fast and I was at a loss for what to do in an area I had never before ventured. </p><p></p><p>Since mid-March, there has been a lot of change and growth within difficult child. She has finally started to look inside herself for strength and resources rather than depending on me to always be there to pick things up, smooth the way and make things better. Which is something we discovered between late 2006 and early 2007 that just can't really be done. Only she can do the fixing, I can only guide. I see her using tools that I've been trying to give her for years and it makes my heart smile.</p><p></p><p>She is learning that it is not her against the world and that she does have an impact - good or bad - on those around her and her actions have consequences - again, good or bad. </p><p></p><p>I have learned to believe what I've always told her, that she has to do the work; I can only provide the resources. Something I thought I believed before, but we love our children with our entire beings and would do anything to take away their suffering. Not unlike you, TM, when I had my focus on something else (in your case activities, in mine my health) difficult child had to lean less on me and more on herself. She has it within her; I always knew that. But seeing her put it to use never ceases to make me proud.</p><p></p><p>For 2008, I would like to see her continue on this path. I would like to see her become less of a drama-queen :rolleyes: but she's a blossoming teenager, so I'll probably have to wait for that one. :smile: I would like to see her take more of an initiative instead of waiting for things to happen. She's made a lot of progress, but I would love to see her take charge of her life.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="flutterbee, post: 110823"] 2007 started off about as bad as it can get. difficult child was spiraling hard and fast and I was at a loss for what to do in an area I had never before ventured. Since mid-March, there has been a lot of change and growth within difficult child. She has finally started to look inside herself for strength and resources rather than depending on me to always be there to pick things up, smooth the way and make things better. Which is something we discovered between late 2006 and early 2007 that just can't really be done. Only she can do the fixing, I can only guide. I see her using tools that I've been trying to give her for years and it makes my heart smile. She is learning that it is not her against the world and that she does have an impact - good or bad - on those around her and her actions have consequences - again, good or bad. I have learned to believe what I've always told her, that she has to do the work; I can only provide the resources. Something I thought I believed before, but we love our children with our entire beings and would do anything to take away their suffering. Not unlike you, TM, when I had my focus on something else (in your case activities, in mine my health) difficult child had to lean less on me and more on herself. She has it within her; I always knew that. But seeing her put it to use never ceases to make me proud. For 2008, I would like to see her continue on this path. I would like to see her become less of a drama-queen [img]:rolleyes:[/img] but she's a blossoming teenager, so I'll probably have to wait for that one. [img]:smile:[/img] I would like to see her take more of an initiative instead of waiting for things to happen. She's made a lot of progress, but I would love to see her take charge of her life. [/QUOTE]
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