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<blockquote data-quote="LittleDudesMom" data-source="post: 110952" data-attributes="member: 805"><p>2007 was a pretty good year for difficult child. He finished off 5th grade with fabulous grades, a presidential award, and a member of the SCA. There was fear about middle school but he seemed to make the transition pretty smoothly.</p><p></p><p>However, just over the last week of holiday vacation, I have been doing a lot of thinking. I've noticed that difficult child seems to be getting a little more frusrated at school. It's kinda two-fold. Many of his issues have been with some other kids. He is not used to kids that bully, threaten, use bad language, etc. His elementary school was a pretty tight ship and nothing of that nature was tolerated.</p><p></p><p>His middle school is extremely diverse and includes kids from the neighborhood, kids from 2 government subsidized housing projects, and kids (like difficult child) who apply to come there out of zone. There is a little rougher edge to his classes especially since he was not placed in honors because of his IEP (collaborative needs). </p><p></p><p>He does not know how to "let go" and "let slide". He also has this warped scense of entitlement. When I think back, I think about what a dark place he was in four years ago. I began treating him like he was surrounded by glass or egg shells.....letting certain things slide because I didn't want him to rage, or get depressed....there was so much of that in school.</p><p></p><p>Now I look at him and think I've done him a disservice by not holding him to the same standard as his sister. I mean I don't think he's a bad kid at all. He just doesn't know how to deal with the frustrations that come up in life sometimes and tends to feel that because he's "different" he is able to act differntly than others. Over the last three years of school, he knew he could go down to the nurse or the principal's office when he was feeling frustrated which also kinda gave him a pass to avoid something the didn't want to do. The idea was great, but in application it was a crutch.</p><p></p><p>So, my goal for 2008 is to really work with him on some standard life skills. I am going to speak to his therapist at his appointment in January about "life skills" and such and see what she recommends. I would love to think that difficult child can "loose" the support of his 1:1 before he finshes middle school. </p><p></p><p>For easy child and myself, it's a WW year. We started working out together this summer and it was wonderful. By the time October rolled around we had stopped going. I really want to give her the example of healthy living and know that I had real success with WW in the past and need to do something about myself, but also be a positive role model for my daughter. She is excited about it - we will join next Tuesday a week and she is already thinking about bathing suits!!!!</p><p></p><p>Thanks for starting this thread TM. I have wanted to vocalize my thoughts out loud about difficult child and you gave me the perfect place.</p><p></p><p>Happy Holidays.</p><p></p><p>Sharon</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="LittleDudesMom, post: 110952, member: 805"] 2007 was a pretty good year for difficult child. He finished off 5th grade with fabulous grades, a presidential award, and a member of the SCA. There was fear about middle school but he seemed to make the transition pretty smoothly. However, just over the last week of holiday vacation, I have been doing a lot of thinking. I've noticed that difficult child seems to be getting a little more frusrated at school. It's kinda two-fold. Many of his issues have been with some other kids. He is not used to kids that bully, threaten, use bad language, etc. His elementary school was a pretty tight ship and nothing of that nature was tolerated. His middle school is extremely diverse and includes kids from the neighborhood, kids from 2 government subsidized housing projects, and kids (like difficult child) who apply to come there out of zone. There is a little rougher edge to his classes especially since he was not placed in honors because of his IEP (collaborative needs). He does not know how to "let go" and "let slide". He also has this warped scense of entitlement. When I think back, I think about what a dark place he was in four years ago. I began treating him like he was surrounded by glass or egg shells.....letting certain things slide because I didn't want him to rage, or get depressed....there was so much of that in school. Now I look at him and think I've done him a disservice by not holding him to the same standard as his sister. I mean I don't think he's a bad kid at all. He just doesn't know how to deal with the frustrations that come up in life sometimes and tends to feel that because he's "different" he is able to act differntly than others. Over the last three years of school, he knew he could go down to the nurse or the principal's office when he was feeling frustrated which also kinda gave him a pass to avoid something the didn't want to do. The idea was great, but in application it was a crutch. So, my goal for 2008 is to really work with him on some standard life skills. I am going to speak to his therapist at his appointment in January about "life skills" and such and see what she recommends. I would love to think that difficult child can "loose" the support of his 1:1 before he finshes middle school. For easy child and myself, it's a WW year. We started working out together this summer and it was wonderful. By the time October rolled around we had stopped going. I really want to give her the example of healthy living and know that I had real success with WW in the past and need to do something about myself, but also be a positive role model for my daughter. She is excited about it - we will join next Tuesday a week and she is already thinking about bathing suits!!!! Thanks for starting this thread TM. I have wanted to vocalize my thoughts out loud about difficult child and you gave me the perfect place. Happy Holidays. Sharon [/QUOTE]
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