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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 111008" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>I would like to think that difficult child's in the future would be less and less in quantity because parents like us put forth a tireless effort to maintain quality of life, skills and no-nonsense parenting. IN days gone by I would have had the ups and downs to print here about Dude. This year I have very little bragging rights. </p><p></p><p>January ushered in A broken jaw for Dude at the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) followed by 12 weeks of recovery and blended meals, tantrums and anticipation of going back to Residential Treatment Center (RTC) where he had a girlfriend. </p><p></p><p>Mid March the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) still wouldn't admit to any wrong doing in the way the broken jaw and the case is under advisement by a lawyer. We pay to get the braces off, his jaw healed, his temperment out of control. </p><p></p><p>April - The school still won't take him into classes, so I threaten to sue and I get a call that day they'll take him. He goes into self contained and does straight A work, but is not compliant with anyone other than his teacher. </p><p></p><p>May - He's so out of control at this point, disobeying curfew, not doing any chores at all we call to have him placed out of the home. They say they are working on it - Dude runs away. We call police. He comes home, we call police he runs away again. He comes back with the help of police - and hates us forever.</p><p></p><p>June - He gets involved with Thugs and is the patsy for a lookout on 3 home robberies. The cops come to the house - we look for and find "loot", Dude tries to commit suicide and ends up in psychiatric hospital. The other 2 boys are already on probation for theft. Dude is the only one incarcerated,spends 95 days in Juvenille jail, goes to court, is remanded over to us. He is now a felon. I hear he will do life in jail for b&E at night and have a stroke. Spend 2 days in hospital. </p><p></p><p>July - He comes home from court; isn't there 2 hours and starts his outrageous behaviors again. We have holes in the wall, carpet stained from spray painting a bike in his room, bug spray on the ceiling, busted windows, busted closets - the dogs are a wreck, the music is so loud your teeth rattle, DF and I both beg the caseworker to get him OUT NOW. They don't for another 2 months. I suffer a mini stroke, and back in the hospital with ulcers. DF barely hanging on and is thinking he may take a vacation. </p><p></p><p>August - School starts for everyone else - but not for Dude. We're to take him to Alternative - and he gets there and decides it is NOT for him - walks out. DF goes and gets him takes him back, war of the worlds - Dude comes home and informs us we are scum. Breaks into DF's garage, my room, steals things from us, continues to terrorize the house. </p><p></p><p>September - THEY HAVE a placement, but it's 3 hours away. We can't take or send him anything. They say he will learn skills for Independent living. They dont' do that - he is breaking into the man who owns the Group homes garages, and stealing tools. Has a near fatal accident when he accepts a ride from a drunk man, flips end over end in truck 3 times, rolls down mountain, and is ejected into Kudzu for ? hours. Goes back to group home and calls me - Group home denies it. Not take to ER</p><p></p><p>October - Dude is still not complying with rules, and is told he will be ejected out of group home for his behaviors and stealing. Is hit by a car while riding a bike - trip to the ER. I get a call three days later from staff. But they are going to keep him. </p><p></p><p>November - Probation officer says NO DEAL on Thanksgiving. Dude can't get himself under control, but is telling me he's going to school, gets job and quits it 9 days later, isnt' getting out of bed, isn't going to school, barely doing community service still owes probation $6k. </p><p></p><p>December - Probation officer tells caseworker he may be going to a work camp. That he can't come home for Christmas either. Group home makes arrangements to move him out of their care. Caseworker makes me sign 52 pages of crud in 15 minutes to transfer Dude to psychiatric. hospital 2 days before Christmas. I do with reservations, Talk to Dude about it - he freaks out, threatens once again to kill himself, run away, and then tells me he's been in contract with his bio father's family (remember bio father? US? In hiding 11 years, no numbers? No visits, Major house alarm, CWP & shooting lessons) in an in my face style - and to have myself a Merry little F'ng Christmas. I hang up crying. </p><p>I leave work, have a very serious conversation with God about why my kid is like he is - get home, phone rings Group home will keep him. He's happy, Apologizes somewhat for the F Christmas comment - and the killing himself - I'm too tired and crying to talk - I tell him I'm sick he says I'll call you Christmas Eve, he doesn't - he calls Christmas Day - tells me he's used my present (a used computer) to fix his that got broken BUT he found a toy in a parking lot I'm gonna love. Says he knows I wasn't allowed to give or send him presents (part of Integrated Listening Systems (ILS) rules). Then says talk to me later - and that's been it. </p><p></p><p>So yeah - 2007, {I'll censor this myself} <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/2012/censored2.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":censored2:" title="censored2 :censored2:" data-shortname=":censored2:" /> eggs. </p><p></p><p>And I can't except for the nice gesture of the toy in the parking lot find much nice to say except for the first time in never - I got 4 certificates 4x3 from his Special Education teacher saying he was a good/gifted kid. I have them framed. They make me cry. </p><p></p><p>So don't even have to hope with a year like this that 2008 is better - lol </p><p></p><p>Thanks for asking - Star</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 111008, member: 4964"] I would like to think that difficult child's in the future would be less and less in quantity because parents like us put forth a tireless effort to maintain quality of life, skills and no-nonsense parenting. IN days gone by I would have had the ups and downs to print here about Dude. This year I have very little bragging rights. January ushered in A broken jaw for Dude at the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) followed by 12 weeks of recovery and blended meals, tantrums and anticipation of going back to Residential Treatment Center (RTC) where he had a girlfriend. Mid March the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) still wouldn't admit to any wrong doing in the way the broken jaw and the case is under advisement by a lawyer. We pay to get the braces off, his jaw healed, his temperment out of control. April - The school still won't take him into classes, so I threaten to sue and I get a call that day they'll take him. He goes into self contained and does straight A work, but is not compliant with anyone other than his teacher. May - He's so out of control at this point, disobeying curfew, not doing any chores at all we call to have him placed out of the home. They say they are working on it - Dude runs away. We call police. He comes home, we call police he runs away again. He comes back with the help of police - and hates us forever. June - He gets involved with Thugs and is the patsy for a lookout on 3 home robberies. The cops come to the house - we look for and find "loot", Dude tries to commit suicide and ends up in psychiatric hospital. The other 2 boys are already on probation for theft. Dude is the only one incarcerated,spends 95 days in Juvenille jail, goes to court, is remanded over to us. He is now a felon. I hear he will do life in jail for b&E at night and have a stroke. Spend 2 days in hospital. July - He comes home from court; isn't there 2 hours and starts his outrageous behaviors again. We have holes in the wall, carpet stained from spray painting a bike in his room, bug spray on the ceiling, busted windows, busted closets - the dogs are a wreck, the music is so loud your teeth rattle, DF and I both beg the caseworker to get him OUT NOW. They don't for another 2 months. I suffer a mini stroke, and back in the hospital with ulcers. DF barely hanging on and is thinking he may take a vacation. August - School starts for everyone else - but not for Dude. We're to take him to Alternative - and he gets there and decides it is NOT for him - walks out. DF goes and gets him takes him back, war of the worlds - Dude comes home and informs us we are scum. Breaks into DF's garage, my room, steals things from us, continues to terrorize the house. September - THEY HAVE a placement, but it's 3 hours away. We can't take or send him anything. They say he will learn skills for Independent living. They dont' do that - he is breaking into the man who owns the Group homes garages, and stealing tools. Has a near fatal accident when he accepts a ride from a drunk man, flips end over end in truck 3 times, rolls down mountain, and is ejected into Kudzu for ? hours. Goes back to group home and calls me - Group home denies it. Not take to ER October - Dude is still not complying with rules, and is told he will be ejected out of group home for his behaviors and stealing. Is hit by a car while riding a bike - trip to the ER. I get a call three days later from staff. But they are going to keep him. November - Probation officer says NO DEAL on Thanksgiving. Dude can't get himself under control, but is telling me he's going to school, gets job and quits it 9 days later, isnt' getting out of bed, isn't going to school, barely doing community service still owes probation $6k. December - Probation officer tells caseworker he may be going to a work camp. That he can't come home for Christmas either. Group home makes arrangements to move him out of their care. Caseworker makes me sign 52 pages of crud in 15 minutes to transfer Dude to psychiatric. hospital 2 days before Christmas. I do with reservations, Talk to Dude about it - he freaks out, threatens once again to kill himself, run away, and then tells me he's been in contract with his bio father's family (remember bio father? US? In hiding 11 years, no numbers? No visits, Major house alarm, CWP & shooting lessons) in an in my face style - and to have myself a Merry little F'ng Christmas. I hang up crying. I leave work, have a very serious conversation with God about why my kid is like he is - get home, phone rings Group home will keep him. He's happy, Apologizes somewhat for the F Christmas comment - and the killing himself - I'm too tired and crying to talk - I tell him I'm sick he says I'll call you Christmas Eve, he doesn't - he calls Christmas Day - tells me he's used my present (a used computer) to fix his that got broken BUT he found a toy in a parking lot I'm gonna love. Says he knows I wasn't allowed to give or send him presents (part of Integrated Listening Systems (ILS) rules). Then says talk to me later - and that's been it. So yeah - 2007, {I'll censor this myself} :censored: eggs. And I can't except for the nice gesture of the toy in the parking lot find much nice to say except for the first time in never - I got 4 certificates 4x3 from his Special Education teacher saying he was a good/gifted kid. I have them framed. They make me cry. So don't even have to hope with a year like this that 2008 is better - lol Thanks for asking - Star [/QUOTE]
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