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<blockquote data-quote="hearts and roses" data-source="post: 111210" data-attributes="member: 2211"><p>2007 has had many ups and downs. It was an intense struggle for difficult child in school *but* she actually and finally did graduate HS - that was a HUGE relief and weight lifted off of both difficult child's and my shoulders. I cannot not find words to describe how wonderful it is NOT to have to talk with teachers, come up with game plans, explain her behavior, blah blah blah.</p><p></p><p>Immediately following the graduation relief, difficult child became suicidal and that was very scary. I felt so helpless to help her. Slowly, she thought about death less and less. She floundered throughout the summer, fell in with a bad crowd and eventually things came to a head, which landed her out of our home and into her dad's. That lasted a mere 5 weeks and she came home with a promise to behave. So far she's been okay, except that she lost her job and from what I can see has not been as diligent about getting a new one. </p><p></p><p>Initially, we didn't like Monkeyboy and still, H and I think he is a bit of a drip - he's jobless, doesn't seem to have any goals, likes to party too much. on the other hand, difficult child is smitten and he does seem to be very kind to her. I really don't know - I have mixed emotions.</p><p></p><p>difficult child still struggles to care for herself, eat right and take her medications without reminders. At 18 and a HS graduate, I expect better, but she is a difficult child and as such she's just not there yet. I can accept that and continue to point her in the right direction, but in the back of my mind I know that we're racing against the clock. I think she will be off and on her own out there without many clues long before she's truly ready and that's a hard pill for me to swallow, but I've been gearing up my warrior mommy heart. With the support of you all, I think it will be okay. I know that difficult child has to learn things the hard way, I'm just hoping that she chooses not to.</p><p></p><p>easy child had an extraordinary year between finishing up her freshman year and her externship far from home. She's done very well and she's made some very healthy choices in regards to her personal life and her future goals. I'm very proud of her and I think the coming year will be a big one for her. She will graduate with an associates in baking and pastry arts from CIA, "the best culinary school in the world" hahah, and then she wants to move down the Carolinas to work and gain some experience. She is thinking that she may take some business courses while there. I will miss having her closeby, but I'm also excited for her.</p><p></p><p>My hope for this coming year is that my daughters get to a place where they are less adversarial and learn to accept one another better and learn to be more tolerant of one another, love each other and rely on one another. I know that's a lot to ask for, but I think in time it may happen. I'm hopeful anyway.</p><p></p><p>I also hope that H continues in his sobriety. He's been looking on line about topics on alcoholism and I think that's a good sign. Since he's never done any type of program, he still hasn't truly worked on any of his issues surrounding his alcoholism, but it's not my place to tell him to do so. I am okay with that. He's actually doing okay, but I'd like him to go get a physical.</p><p></p><p>I am hopeful that difficult child will mature a little more, take more responsibility for her care and well-being. I'd like to see her get a job that can develop into a full time position with health benefits. If she's not in school by next fall, she will be removed from my insurance plan in October, which is not a good thing. She's smart enough and clever enough and capable, so I'm hoping she realizes that and goes with it.</p><p></p><p>I am hopeful that I will get in shape this year. I eat healthy, but I haven't been exercising at all in months and it's showing in many ways. I get winded easily and my body is getting wobbly. I am going to make a concerted effort to take yoga as a means of finding time to meditate as well as become more fit. I am also going to kick start being better organized. With all the difficult child stuff these past few years, I've really lost control of my household organization and I need to get that back. I think that much of my financial issues are very much related to my lack of organization. I haven't had a true budget in years.</p><p></p><p>The very best to all of us in 2008!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hearts and roses, post: 111210, member: 2211"] 2007 has had many ups and downs. It was an intense struggle for difficult child in school *but* she actually and finally did graduate HS - that was a HUGE relief and weight lifted off of both difficult child's and my shoulders. I cannot not find words to describe how wonderful it is NOT to have to talk with teachers, come up with game plans, explain her behavior, blah blah blah. Immediately following the graduation relief, difficult child became suicidal and that was very scary. I felt so helpless to help her. Slowly, she thought about death less and less. She floundered throughout the summer, fell in with a bad crowd and eventually things came to a head, which landed her out of our home and into her dad's. That lasted a mere 5 weeks and she came home with a promise to behave. So far she's been okay, except that she lost her job and from what I can see has not been as diligent about getting a new one. Initially, we didn't like Monkeyboy and still, H and I think he is a bit of a drip - he's jobless, doesn't seem to have any goals, likes to party too much. on the other hand, difficult child is smitten and he does seem to be very kind to her. I really don't know - I have mixed emotions. difficult child still struggles to care for herself, eat right and take her medications without reminders. At 18 and a HS graduate, I expect better, but she is a difficult child and as such she's just not there yet. I can accept that and continue to point her in the right direction, but in the back of my mind I know that we're racing against the clock. I think she will be off and on her own out there without many clues long before she's truly ready and that's a hard pill for me to swallow, but I've been gearing up my warrior mommy heart. With the support of you all, I think it will be okay. I know that difficult child has to learn things the hard way, I'm just hoping that she chooses not to. easy child had an extraordinary year between finishing up her freshman year and her externship far from home. She's done very well and she's made some very healthy choices in regards to her personal life and her future goals. I'm very proud of her and I think the coming year will be a big one for her. She will graduate with an associates in baking and pastry arts from CIA, "the best culinary school in the world" hahah, and then she wants to move down the Carolinas to work and gain some experience. She is thinking that she may take some business courses while there. I will miss having her closeby, but I'm also excited for her. My hope for this coming year is that my daughters get to a place where they are less adversarial and learn to accept one another better and learn to be more tolerant of one another, love each other and rely on one another. I know that's a lot to ask for, but I think in time it may happen. I'm hopeful anyway. I also hope that H continues in his sobriety. He's been looking on line about topics on alcoholism and I think that's a good sign. Since he's never done any type of program, he still hasn't truly worked on any of his issues surrounding his alcoholism, but it's not my place to tell him to do so. I am okay with that. He's actually doing okay, but I'd like him to go get a physical. I am hopeful that difficult child will mature a little more, take more responsibility for her care and well-being. I'd like to see her get a job that can develop into a full time position with health benefits. If she's not in school by next fall, she will be removed from my insurance plan in October, which is not a good thing. She's smart enough and clever enough and capable, so I'm hoping she realizes that and goes with it. I am hopeful that I will get in shape this year. I eat healthy, but I haven't been exercising at all in months and it's showing in many ways. I get winded easily and my body is getting wobbly. I am going to make a concerted effort to take yoga as a means of finding time to meditate as well as become more fit. I am also going to kick start being better organized. With all the difficult child stuff these past few years, I've really lost control of my household organization and I need to get that back. I think that much of my financial issues are very much related to my lack of organization. I haven't had a true budget in years. The very best to all of us in 2008! [/QUOTE]
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