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21 year old son won't move out
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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 467755" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Give the boy a move out date in writing. On that date put his stuff outside and change the locks. If you think that all he needs is to be pushed out, that is what you do. If he fights, bangs on the door, whines that he has nowhere to go, give him a list of local shelters and tell him you gave him written notice 2 weeks or 30 days ago and those are HIS problems and NOT YOURS.</p><p></p><p>If you think he can't, as in is not ABLE to learn to take care of himself, then you have to find some way to push him into a dorm or something where he will get some assistance but won't be babied.</p><p></p><p>When you change the locks and put his stuff out, tell him he can always ask his dad. After all, hasn't dad been happy to just not deal with this and not support you on this? Make it dad's problem by refusing to let it be yours. You will feel guilty for a while, but frankly, you are probably not doing him any favors by letting him live with you.</p><p></p><p>IF, by some reason he decides to push his "tenant's rights" to your home, you may have to take a copy of the written notice that you gave him and file an eviction order with the court. Then in 30 days he will be out. A LOT of that depends on if he tries to assert that. If he doesn't? Tell him in writing that he has two weeks, maybe pick up some boxes from the liquor store (and check what he packs to make sure he isn't taking your stuff, esp anything valuable!</p><p></p><p>For at least the week before the eviction date, turn off his internet at home. Then he either won't be there or will be there and can pack his stuff up.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 467755, member: 1233"] Give the boy a move out date in writing. On that date put his stuff outside and change the locks. If you think that all he needs is to be pushed out, that is what you do. If he fights, bangs on the door, whines that he has nowhere to go, give him a list of local shelters and tell him you gave him written notice 2 weeks or 30 days ago and those are HIS problems and NOT YOURS. If you think he can't, as in is not ABLE to learn to take care of himself, then you have to find some way to push him into a dorm or something where he will get some assistance but won't be babied. When you change the locks and put his stuff out, tell him he can always ask his dad. After all, hasn't dad been happy to just not deal with this and not support you on this? Make it dad's problem by refusing to let it be yours. You will feel guilty for a while, but frankly, you are probably not doing him any favors by letting him live with you. IF, by some reason he decides to push his "tenant's rights" to your home, you may have to take a copy of the written notice that you gave him and file an eviction order with the court. Then in 30 days he will be out. A LOT of that depends on if he tries to assert that. If he doesn't? Tell him in writing that he has two weeks, maybe pick up some boxes from the liquor store (and check what he packs to make sure he isn't taking your stuff, esp anything valuable! For at least the week before the eviction date, turn off his internet at home. Then he either won't be there or will be there and can pack his stuff up. [/QUOTE]
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