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21 year old son won't move out
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<blockquote data-quote="DammitJanet" data-source="post: 467995" data-attributes="member: 1514"><p>Oh yes...the boys that dont grow up. You definitely need to set a toss out date. Look up shelters in your town and make a list. Im sure your son can find a Full time job. He sounds quite bright. Also, most of these difficult child's land on their feet quite well. I have yet to hear of one who actually ended up freezing to death on a park bench. They manage to find friends to take them in and couch surf. </p><p></p><p>I would set a date. Its the 10th of October now. Maybe set the date for 12/1 now. Give him a certified letter that he has to sign for so that it is a legal eviction just in case you have to go that route in your state. We actually have to do that in NC. So make sure you serve him with papers. As long as you have a copy of that notarized statement and a copy of the envelope you sent him and where he picked it up or proof that you sent it certified and he refused to pick it up...all is good. </p><p></p><p>On that date you can lock him out. </p><p></p><p>I have a 30 year old man (my son) still living with me. He should be gone. I have wanted him to leave so many times but Tony (my partner) feels he is my most disabled child and thinks it would be mean to push him out too fast. Argh. After all, he didnt get his drivers license until he was 27. He has been working at his retail job either full or part time since 26. They manage to keep his hours somewhere between 20 to 40 a week and you just never know what it will be. He doesnt have the guts to go find a better one anywhere. He has aspergers and just doesnt come across very well in interviews I think. He is also very obese so I think that is also a problem. However, we have told him he has to find a place by his birthday this coming year. Supposedly he is going to find a place when he gets his income taxes. He actually told us "I dont know what you guys are going to do when I am gone!" Huh? Number one, he eats like 3 people and doesnt help with groceries. He pays all of $150 a month to live here. He has 2 computers in his room, 2 computer monitors, a PS3, a 27 in HDTV, a dvr cable box, a fan, and I dont know how many other things plugged into the electricity in there. When he leaves I am sure my electric bill will fall. He doesnt do any cleaning in here including his bedroom. Once in a blue moon he will cook but its not very good. Normally hamburger helper, spaghetti or hotdogs. </p><p></p><p>I think we will get by without him here...lol. My question is omg, what will he do!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DammitJanet, post: 467995, member: 1514"] Oh yes...the boys that dont grow up. You definitely need to set a toss out date. Look up shelters in your town and make a list. Im sure your son can find a Full time job. He sounds quite bright. Also, most of these difficult child's land on their feet quite well. I have yet to hear of one who actually ended up freezing to death on a park bench. They manage to find friends to take them in and couch surf. I would set a date. Its the 10th of October now. Maybe set the date for 12/1 now. Give him a certified letter that he has to sign for so that it is a legal eviction just in case you have to go that route in your state. We actually have to do that in NC. So make sure you serve him with papers. As long as you have a copy of that notarized statement and a copy of the envelope you sent him and where he picked it up or proof that you sent it certified and he refused to pick it up...all is good. On that date you can lock him out. I have a 30 year old man (my son) still living with me. He should be gone. I have wanted him to leave so many times but Tony (my partner) feels he is my most disabled child and thinks it would be mean to push him out too fast. Argh. After all, he didnt get his drivers license until he was 27. He has been working at his retail job either full or part time since 26. They manage to keep his hours somewhere between 20 to 40 a week and you just never know what it will be. He doesnt have the guts to go find a better one anywhere. He has aspergers and just doesnt come across very well in interviews I think. He is also very obese so I think that is also a problem. However, we have told him he has to find a place by his birthday this coming year. Supposedly he is going to find a place when he gets his income taxes. He actually told us "I dont know what you guys are going to do when I am gone!" Huh? Number one, he eats like 3 people and doesnt help with groceries. He pays all of $150 a month to live here. He has 2 computers in his room, 2 computer monitors, a PS3, a 27 in HDTV, a dvr cable box, a fan, and I dont know how many other things plugged into the electricity in there. When he leaves I am sure my electric bill will fall. He doesnt do any cleaning in here including his bedroom. Once in a blue moon he will cook but its not very good. Normally hamburger helper, spaghetti or hotdogs. I think we will get by without him here...lol. My question is omg, what will he do! [/QUOTE]
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