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21 yr old Daughter taking Klonopin and drinking Alcohol
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<blockquote data-quote="Nancy" data-source="post: 545252" data-attributes="member: 59"><p>Hi ZX and welcome to our forum. Your daughter has a drug/alcohol problem. When other people come and tell you that she has a problem it really has escalated out of control. The therapist who told you that you were overbearing and your daughter can do as she likes should not be a therapist. You came to her and told her that your daughter has drug problems and this is her response? I have had therapists over the years that I have stopped having my difficult child go to because they just didn't get it. I have to tell you that the more therapists I meet, the more I am convinced that they have no business counseling people. There are very few therapists I have found that were any help with our daughter at all.</p><p></p><p>Your daughter needs drug/alcohol treatment, not some drug for depression that she can abuse with alcohol. You have more leverage than you think even though she is 21. Are you paying her college tuition? She is still living in your home on school breaks I assume. Many of us here have had to draw the line in the sand and tell our difficult child's that they can no longer live here unless they agree to treatment. You can also stop paying her college tuition until she gets treatment. Are you and your husband ready to push that issue? We had to kick our daughter out of our home at age 19 because she was abusing drugs and alcohol. She ended up in a drug treatment program, several in fact, and lived in two sober houses but has now relapsed and since turning 21 says she is having the time of her life. In the meantime she is broke, has gotten fired from several jobs, stole money from her employer, owes many people money, became pregnant, had an abortion, been in the ER with sexually transmitted diseases and had her utilities shut off. But she still says she loves being 21. She went from our very stable nice home in a lovely community to just about living in her car which will break down any day now.</p><p></p><p>My suggestion is to start checking out residential drug treatment centers so that you have done your research and know how you are going to fund it, and then decide if you are willing to pull her bottom up and force her to get help.</p><p></p><p>This is so very difficult for a parent. We nurture and love and support our kids all through their life and then we have to sometimes pull the rug out and tell them they can no longer stay here unless they get help. Alcohol/drug addiction is a horrible disease and it doesn't get better on it's own. So many parents in the parents support groups I belong to say the same thing, their bright wonderful child went to college and came back a drug addict. I'm very sorry you are dealing with this. Is your husband on board with how serious this is?</p><p></p><p>Nancy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nancy, post: 545252, member: 59"] Hi ZX and welcome to our forum. Your daughter has a drug/alcohol problem. When other people come and tell you that she has a problem it really has escalated out of control. The therapist who told you that you were overbearing and your daughter can do as she likes should not be a therapist. You came to her and told her that your daughter has drug problems and this is her response? I have had therapists over the years that I have stopped having my difficult child go to because they just didn't get it. I have to tell you that the more therapists I meet, the more I am convinced that they have no business counseling people. There are very few therapists I have found that were any help with our daughter at all. Your daughter needs drug/alcohol treatment, not some drug for depression that she can abuse with alcohol. You have more leverage than you think even though she is 21. Are you paying her college tuition? She is still living in your home on school breaks I assume. Many of us here have had to draw the line in the sand and tell our difficult child's that they can no longer live here unless they agree to treatment. You can also stop paying her college tuition until she gets treatment. Are you and your husband ready to push that issue? We had to kick our daughter out of our home at age 19 because she was abusing drugs and alcohol. She ended up in a drug treatment program, several in fact, and lived in two sober houses but has now relapsed and since turning 21 says she is having the time of her life. In the meantime she is broke, has gotten fired from several jobs, stole money from her employer, owes many people money, became pregnant, had an abortion, been in the ER with sexually transmitted diseases and had her utilities shut off. But she still says she loves being 21. She went from our very stable nice home in a lovely community to just about living in her car which will break down any day now. My suggestion is to start checking out residential drug treatment centers so that you have done your research and know how you are going to fund it, and then decide if you are willing to pull her bottom up and force her to get help. This is so very difficult for a parent. We nurture and love and support our kids all through their life and then we have to sometimes pull the rug out and tell them they can no longer stay here unless they get help. Alcohol/drug addiction is a horrible disease and it doesn't get better on it's own. So many parents in the parents support groups I belong to say the same thing, their bright wonderful child went to college and came back a drug addict. I'm very sorry you are dealing with this. Is your husband on board with how serious this is? Nancy [/QUOTE]
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