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<blockquote data-quote="Triedntrue" data-source="post: 732543" data-attributes="member: 21499"><p>What is the mother like is she stable or a decent parent? If so i would consider just kicking out your son and getting a restraining order. They can love their children but it doesnt make them good parents. Have social services set up supervised visits where you are not the supervisor. Have them outline that if he wants to be with his children he has to get treatment and control his temper. If he violates the restraining order call the police. I do not say that lightly i have had to do it. He will not change his behaviors unless he is strongly motivated to do so. He has to understand that his behavior is the problem. You say he doesnt hurt the kids but i am sure there is psychological damage being done. Also what if he throws something and accidentally hits one of them. I have had to keep my grandchildren away from my son he would not hurt them but my fears are the same as i told you. He can be sweet and loving when he is with them but when he has a break he is unpredictable. If he has to go to jail he is safe and you are safe. As far as the money once he is safely out do not give him anything. He should be giving you or their mother money not the other way around. If he has to go to a shelter or another public service they will direct him to help. Until he accepts that he can not be around. Just so you know my son has the same diagnosis and alot of the same history. If you dont want mom and kids there you could help them to get aide and set up elsewhere hopefully she will keep him under a restraining order as well. Best of luck.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Triedntrue, post: 732543, member: 21499"] What is the mother like is she stable or a decent parent? If so i would consider just kicking out your son and getting a restraining order. They can love their children but it doesnt make them good parents. Have social services set up supervised visits where you are not the supervisor. Have them outline that if he wants to be with his children he has to get treatment and control his temper. If he violates the restraining order call the police. I do not say that lightly i have had to do it. He will not change his behaviors unless he is strongly motivated to do so. He has to understand that his behavior is the problem. You say he doesnt hurt the kids but i am sure there is psychological damage being done. Also what if he throws something and accidentally hits one of them. I have had to keep my grandchildren away from my son he would not hurt them but my fears are the same as i told you. He can be sweet and loving when he is with them but when he has a break he is unpredictable. If he has to go to jail he is safe and you are safe. As far as the money once he is safely out do not give him anything. He should be giving you or their mother money not the other way around. If he has to go to a shelter or another public service they will direct him to help. Until he accepts that he can not be around. Just so you know my son has the same diagnosis and alot of the same history. If you dont want mom and kids there you could help them to get aide and set up elsewhere hopefully she will keep him under a restraining order as well. Best of luck. [/QUOTE]
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