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<blockquote data-quote="PennyFromTheBlock" data-source="post: 639992" data-attributes="member: 18271"><p>And what is crazy- is I put the ball in his court- I told him, when you get off, go find out about those apartments. In other words, you are going to have to do some work- I'm not going to call them FOR YOU and find out all your information.</p><p></p><p>You know, if he had gone there and texted me and said "they have a move in special, no deposit- and prorated rent for November would be $140" or something- I would have probably helped him with JUST November. But he couldn't even find it necessary to do the work to get INFORMATION.</p><p></p><p>His sister, at first, was feeling was pulled in by his drama- feeling somewhat sorry for him- because that's how he ended up at her house to begin with months ago- she was beside herself in thinking he may have to sleep in his car. She didn't respond to him though at all- she contacted me first. This sounds so bad- but she's such a blessing to me. Smarter than words can convey. It's partly due to HER support that has made this ok. She has actually told me that since we've "washed our hands" she can see a difference in ME. Not stressed and mad and angry all the time.</p><p></p><p>But once he left and she has since discovered things missing (small things, to him-insignificant- but hers nonetheless) she has no interest in him being there.</p><p></p><p>One of the things he fails to realize is - if he wants to earn back trust that's on HIM. He has made NO moves to outreach to us just to see how we are, to apologize- he took items from my mom's in August and sold them- and he has not once made any moves to even APOLOGIZE to her for this.</p><p></p><p>See, if he knows someone WON'T help him at all- which my mother wouldn't- then why apologize? </p><p></p><p>He's always been like this- why do "x" if there's no "reward"? Nevermind that it's the right thing to do.</p><p></p><p>/sigh.</p><p></p><p>I feel like I'm doing well in this - all told- my issue (as indicated above) is in how I respond to him. But as far as EVER living with me or his sister again? Not going to happen. He'd rob me blind in a day at this point.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="PennyFromTheBlock, post: 639992, member: 18271"] And what is crazy- is I put the ball in his court- I told him, when you get off, go find out about those apartments. In other words, you are going to have to do some work- I'm not going to call them FOR YOU and find out all your information. You know, if he had gone there and texted me and said "they have a move in special, no deposit- and prorated rent for November would be $140" or something- I would have probably helped him with JUST November. But he couldn't even find it necessary to do the work to get INFORMATION. His sister, at first, was feeling was pulled in by his drama- feeling somewhat sorry for him- because that's how he ended up at her house to begin with months ago- she was beside herself in thinking he may have to sleep in his car. She didn't respond to him though at all- she contacted me first. This sounds so bad- but she's such a blessing to me. Smarter than words can convey. It's partly due to HER support that has made this ok. She has actually told me that since we've "washed our hands" she can see a difference in ME. Not stressed and mad and angry all the time. But once he left and she has since discovered things missing (small things, to him-insignificant- but hers nonetheless) she has no interest in him being there. One of the things he fails to realize is - if he wants to earn back trust that's on HIM. He has made NO moves to outreach to us just to see how we are, to apologize- he took items from my mom's in August and sold them- and he has not once made any moves to even APOLOGIZE to her for this. See, if he knows someone WON'T help him at all- which my mother wouldn't- then why apologize? He's always been like this- why do "x" if there's no "reward"? Nevermind that it's the right thing to do. /sigh. I feel like I'm doing well in this - all told- my issue (as indicated above) is in how I respond to him. But as far as EVER living with me or his sister again? Not going to happen. He'd rob me blind in a day at this point. [/QUOTE]
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