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30 year old daughter has done horrible things to me
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 742054" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Your daughter is a danger to you. It doesnt matter why. You need to be safe. It is totally NOT in any way normal or even just due to immaturity to rob from, assault or hurt ANYONE let alone a loving mother. Most people NEVER do these things to anyone.</p><p></p><p>I had a mother who made me feel like the worst person...very abusive. But I never hit her or stole from her or, when I had kids, abused/neglected them. Your granddaughter like me can decide to be the opposite of Mom. It depends. Some young (and not so young) adults try forever to get love from abusers....parents, lovers and spouses, bad hearted adult children or aunts or uncles or any other loved ones. If you are there for your Granddaughter at 18 I suspect she will lean on you. So thats one reason to stay healthy and grounded. Exercise, meditate, eat well, enjoy people who are good to you!</p><p></p><p>Grandson is better off with Dad. Trust me, he is better with a loving stable parent. I fear for the unborn child your daughter carries. But time will tell if she can keep her. Her record isnt good. You may have to step in, if you are able. Or someone else will.</p><p></p><p>I think you did everything for your daughter out of love. Your love didnt make her this way. It may have even kept her from being worse. She may have been born with a bad set of genes. But she could have sought help. This is NOT because of you that she did not. We dont have the magical amount of influence that we think we do. A lot is genetic. A lot is peers (once they are 14 peer approval trumps parental approval), the internet, TV, teachers (good and not so good), other adults, the world....we matter the most in the elementory school years and we can't teach personality...just OUR values. It is up to them in their unique minds to follow our teachings or not. As long as you taught her right from wrong, she knows. It is her choice to take a different path.</p><p></p><p>You are a good person and its time to look after yourself. Please get help, a therapist. Have you ever been in therapy that focused on you and not your daughter? Therapy really helped me be the strong person I am now. My life wasnt easy either. But I fought for me. Fight for you!</p><p></p><p>Love and light!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 742054, member: 1550"] Your daughter is a danger to you. It doesnt matter why. You need to be safe. It is totally NOT in any way normal or even just due to immaturity to rob from, assault or hurt ANYONE let alone a loving mother. Most people NEVER do these things to anyone. I had a mother who made me feel like the worst person...very abusive. But I never hit her or stole from her or, when I had kids, abused/neglected them. Your granddaughter like me can decide to be the opposite of Mom. It depends. Some young (and not so young) adults try forever to get love from abusers....parents, lovers and spouses, bad hearted adult children or aunts or uncles or any other loved ones. If you are there for your Granddaughter at 18 I suspect she will lean on you. So thats one reason to stay healthy and grounded. Exercise, meditate, eat well, enjoy people who are good to you! Grandson is better off with Dad. Trust me, he is better with a loving stable parent. I fear for the unborn child your daughter carries. But time will tell if she can keep her. Her record isnt good. You may have to step in, if you are able. Or someone else will. I think you did everything for your daughter out of love. Your love didnt make her this way. It may have even kept her from being worse. She may have been born with a bad set of genes. But she could have sought help. This is NOT because of you that she did not. We dont have the magical amount of influence that we think we do. A lot is genetic. A lot is peers (once they are 14 peer approval trumps parental approval), the internet, TV, teachers (good and not so good), other adults, the world....we matter the most in the elementory school years and we can't teach personality...just OUR values. It is up to them in their unique minds to follow our teachings or not. As long as you taught her right from wrong, she knows. It is her choice to take a different path. You are a good person and its time to look after yourself. Please get help, a therapist. Have you ever been in therapy that focused on you and not your daughter? Therapy really helped me be the strong person I am now. My life wasnt easy either. But I fought for me. Fight for you! Love and light! [/QUOTE]
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