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<blockquote data-quote="blackgnat" data-source="post: 618756" data-attributes="member: 13561"><p>Thanks for all the thoughtful replies and especially to you, Cedar , because I think you are right-I do need to post a lot because it's stressing me out massively. I feel like he's trying to pull me into his net again.</p><p></p><p>I found out that he was arrested for violating his protection order and so there are more charges. Again the sociopath emerged when he said "I keep looking for someone else to blame but really I know it's my fault".</p><p></p><p>My evil twin tells me, "He feels SO bad for being so stupid and blowing the chance to spend the time OUT of jail when he got bailed out. He must be kicking himself-poor thing" Why couldn't he do it? Because he didn't want to , I guess. That's the reality. He said nobody wanted to help him and I was like "Your brother and father WERE helping you and you just ignored the rules". </p><p></p><p>I told him not to go and see this girl. He did anyway, and apparently got assurances from her that she wouldn't be pursuing it and asking for probation and sober living. He then went to see her mother (the one who visited him in jail-she's an attorney!) and she apparently said that she would support him in any way. Then he tells me yesterday that he doesn't care about what happens to him, there's nothing out there for him, that he still loves her and that she has already moved on, (good, dodged a bullet there!) I would like to know how someone knew he had been at her place, but its just the stupidity of that, PLUS the fact that he was drunk (maybe that was it, because consumption of alcohol was also a violation) He told me that he was in warming shelters at night and drinking tumblers of vodka during the day with some Army Ranger he met.</p><p></p><p>Can you see how I'm TOTALLY buying into all this? Overthinking it? Speculating? This is what happens when I'm feeling vulnerable and I DO NOT LIKE FEELING LIKE THIS! I have compassion for him but I don't need these details and now I have ONE DOLLAR of calls left on his phone and I'm not in a position to put any more money on to the account. Plus I don't want to. He has called me FIVE times today and I haven't spoken to him. I hate the growing unease that I feel, that he wants to keep calling me . I feel that I'll be pulled back into him being the child in trouble that I have to fix, but he is a MAN who screwed up, didn't think of any of the consequences, did exactly what he wanted and just invited more <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/2012/censored2.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":censored2:" title="censored2 :censored2:" data-shortname=":censored2:" /> into his life.</p><p></p><p>Sorry I know I'm raving but it's just swirling around and I need to get back to that place where I can look at him more objectively and think "YOU did this to yourself and you're in a <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/2012/censored2.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":censored2:" title="censored2 :censored2:" data-shortname=":censored2:" /> place now where you have to SUCK IT UP and Mummy can't help you." Plus, his cellies are going to think he hasn't any cred if he's calling Ma every day.</p><p></p><p>Ugh. ugh. ugh.</p><p></p><p> What the HELL does he think I can do for him? Yesterday he started to get a bit belligerent about not getting some medications from the nurse because he was agitated and I said "Look, I don't want to have this conversation with you when you are aggressive and negative". He said he would just finish the convo and we said goodbye.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="blackgnat, post: 618756, member: 13561"] Thanks for all the thoughtful replies and especially to you, Cedar , because I think you are right-I do need to post a lot because it's stressing me out massively. I feel like he's trying to pull me into his net again. I found out that he was arrested for violating his protection order and so there are more charges. Again the sociopath emerged when he said "I keep looking for someone else to blame but really I know it's my fault". My evil twin tells me, "He feels SO bad for being so stupid and blowing the chance to spend the time OUT of jail when he got bailed out. He must be kicking himself-poor thing" Why couldn't he do it? Because he didn't want to , I guess. That's the reality. He said nobody wanted to help him and I was like "Your brother and father WERE helping you and you just ignored the rules". I told him not to go and see this girl. He did anyway, and apparently got assurances from her that she wouldn't be pursuing it and asking for probation and sober living. He then went to see her mother (the one who visited him in jail-she's an attorney!) and she apparently said that she would support him in any way. Then he tells me yesterday that he doesn't care about what happens to him, there's nothing out there for him, that he still loves her and that she has already moved on, (good, dodged a bullet there!) I would like to know how someone knew he had been at her place, but its just the stupidity of that, PLUS the fact that he was drunk (maybe that was it, because consumption of alcohol was also a violation) He told me that he was in warming shelters at night and drinking tumblers of vodka during the day with some Army Ranger he met. Can you see how I'm TOTALLY buying into all this? Overthinking it? Speculating? This is what happens when I'm feeling vulnerable and I DO NOT LIKE FEELING LIKE THIS! I have compassion for him but I don't need these details and now I have ONE DOLLAR of calls left on his phone and I'm not in a position to put any more money on to the account. Plus I don't want to. He has called me FIVE times today and I haven't spoken to him. I hate the growing unease that I feel, that he wants to keep calling me . I feel that I'll be pulled back into him being the child in trouble that I have to fix, but he is a MAN who screwed up, didn't think of any of the consequences, did exactly what he wanted and just invited more :censored2: into his life. Sorry I know I'm raving but it's just swirling around and I need to get back to that place where I can look at him more objectively and think "YOU did this to yourself and you're in a :censored2: place now where you have to SUCK IT UP and Mummy can't help you." Plus, his cellies are going to think he hasn't any cred if he's calling Ma every day. Ugh. ugh. ugh. What the HELL does he think I can do for him? Yesterday he started to get a bit belligerent about not getting some medications from the nurse because he was agitated and I said "Look, I don't want to have this conversation with you when you are aggressive and negative". He said he would just finish the convo and we said goodbye. [/QUOTE]
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