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36 hours after release from jail, difficult child is high and drunk...
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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 618797" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>I love to see the anger coming through in this last post, blackgnat. Love yourself through this part. You deserve better than what this grown man is trying to do to you. He may be your son, but he is not being his best self now by a long shot.</p><p></p><p>How dare he bring these pointless troubles to your door?</p><p></p><p>As I healed, I began telling my difficult child son that I wanted more for him, that he needed to stand up, be a man, take responsibility for his life. I told him that I saw so much more in him than what he was doing, that I wanted more from him, that I would expect no less.</p><p></p><p>Know what happened?</p><p></p><p>He stopped talking to me.</p><p></p><p>But at least he is not asking for money, anymore.</p><p></p><p>And I fully expect that I will hear from this son, who does love me, just as your son loves you, whether he wants to admit it or not, once he is doing better. And until then? The truth, blackgnat...is that I don't want to hear from my son until he <u>does</u> stand up to become the man I raised him to be.</p><p></p><p>So, we're kind of on his timeline, here.</p><p></p><p>What do you think would happen if you took this opportunity, now, while your son is safely locked away...to tell him what <u>you</u> expect of him, for once. Like, how about dealing with the everyday things we all cope with in a responsible fashion? I don't know which of us it was, but one of us posted about what her difficult child would think if she started complaining about not having a pan for pasta or not being able to find her socks.</p><p></p><p>That's pretty much what your difficult child is doing.</p><p></p><p>Complaining to his mom that his socks don't match.</p><p></p><p>I'm just saying.</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 618797, member: 17461"] I love to see the anger coming through in this last post, blackgnat. Love yourself through this part. You deserve better than what this grown man is trying to do to you. He may be your son, but he is not being his best self now by a long shot. How dare he bring these pointless troubles to your door? As I healed, I began telling my difficult child son that I wanted more for him, that he needed to stand up, be a man, take responsibility for his life. I told him that I saw so much more in him than what he was doing, that I wanted more from him, that I would expect no less. Know what happened? He stopped talking to me. But at least he is not asking for money, anymore. And I fully expect that I will hear from this son, who does love me, just as your son loves you, whether he wants to admit it or not, once he is doing better. And until then? The truth, blackgnat...is that I don't want to hear from my son until he [U]does[/U] stand up to become the man I raised him to be. So, we're kind of on his timeline, here. What do you think would happen if you took this opportunity, now, while your son is safely locked away...to tell him what [U]you[/U] expect of him, for once. Like, how about dealing with the everyday things we all cope with in a responsible fashion? I don't know which of us it was, but one of us posted about what her difficult child would think if she started complaining about not having a pan for pasta or not being able to find her socks. That's pretty much what your difficult child is doing. Complaining to his mom that his socks don't match. I'm just saying. Cedar [/QUOTE]
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