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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 618909" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>You are in what Recovering calls the FOG, blackgnat. It happens when two conflicting realities ~ yours, and your difficult children ~ collide. When we are in the fog, we are frozen in place. We literally cannot see, cannot think. What we want, all we want, is to protect our children. The more we protect, the more they seem to leap right off the deep end.</p><p></p><p>There is a Buddhist thing to stop panic and get ourselves back to the present moment that I am going to share with you. You need to think clearly, now. You need to be there for yourself and for your son in strength, in wisdom. These are the hardest of times, blackgnat. Nothing about this is going to be easy. You are fortunate to have had a break from it for these past few months. Even this young man's father could not help him. Your son is manipulating you. You love him. You are vulnerable and in danger of going right back to the way things were before you brought him to Colorado. You need to be calm, centered, controlled.</p><p></p><p>It's like being in the eye of a hurricane, blackgnat. Only this one, you entered willingly for the sake of your son. Now, you need to get calm. You have great courage. You did not run away or ignore the situation. Now, you need to be strong enough to see it through, correctly.</p><p></p><p>So, here is the Buddhist thing: Take a good, deep breath. Say, "I never did mind, about the little things." Smile.</p><p></p><p>That's it. In the midst of those times when we can't see our ways out of the fog, try that. It has worked for me, has kept me sane, has given me just that split second's peace I needed to find my own strength, again.</p><p></p><p>Read Recovering's information on detachment.</p><p></p><p>Read about abusive relationship. You are in an abusive relationship with your son. In these kinds of relationships, each of us has a role to play. The good news is that when one party stops playing? The abuse stops. The abuser will not like having his power over you taken away. But you will be strong enough to stop the abuse, blackgnat.</p><p></p><p>Everything is going to be fine. You did not have us, last time. Once you did find all of us, here where it is safe? We were right there for you.</p><p></p><p>And we are here for you now, blackgnat.</p><p></p><p>Please keep posting. Please don't get discouraged. You and your son are in such a hard place right now. Things may get worse, but they can definitely get better.</p><p></p><p>We are right here, blackgnat. </p><p></p><p>You aren't alone with any of it, anymore.</p><p></p><p>The Verbally Abusive Relationship</p><p>Patricia Evans</p><p></p><p><a href="http://www.patriciaevans.com" target="_blank">www.patriciaevans.com</a></p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 618909, member: 17461"] You are in what Recovering calls the FOG, blackgnat. It happens when two conflicting realities ~ yours, and your difficult children ~ collide. When we are in the fog, we are frozen in place. We literally cannot see, cannot think. What we want, all we want, is to protect our children. The more we protect, the more they seem to leap right off the deep end. There is a Buddhist thing to stop panic and get ourselves back to the present moment that I am going to share with you. You need to think clearly, now. You need to be there for yourself and for your son in strength, in wisdom. These are the hardest of times, blackgnat. Nothing about this is going to be easy. You are fortunate to have had a break from it for these past few months. Even this young man's father could not help him. Your son is manipulating you. You love him. You are vulnerable and in danger of going right back to the way things were before you brought him to Colorado. You need to be calm, centered, controlled. It's like being in the eye of a hurricane, blackgnat. Only this one, you entered willingly for the sake of your son. Now, you need to get calm. You have great courage. You did not run away or ignore the situation. Now, you need to be strong enough to see it through, correctly. So, here is the Buddhist thing: Take a good, deep breath. Say, "I never did mind, about the little things." Smile. That's it. In the midst of those times when we can't see our ways out of the fog, try that. It has worked for me, has kept me sane, has given me just that split second's peace I needed to find my own strength, again. Read Recovering's information on detachment. Read about abusive relationship. You are in an abusive relationship with your son. In these kinds of relationships, each of us has a role to play. The good news is that when one party stops playing? The abuse stops. The abuser will not like having his power over you taken away. But you will be strong enough to stop the abuse, blackgnat. Everything is going to be fine. You did not have us, last time. Once you did find all of us, here where it is safe? We were right there for you. And we are here for you now, blackgnat. Please keep posting. Please don't get discouraged. You and your son are in such a hard place right now. Things may get worse, but they can definitely get better. We are right here, blackgnat. You aren't alone with any of it, anymore. The Verbally Abusive Relationship Patricia Evans [url="http://www.patriciaevans.com"]www.patriciaevans.com[/url] Cedar [/QUOTE]
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