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<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 506785" data-attributes="member: 12886"><p>C&L, HI there! Glad you found the board. I hear you about not meeting cut offs financially. I dont for anything except my son does qualify on his own due to his medical needs. If his dad can pay out of pocket to get a neuropsychologist evaluation or good psychiatric evaluation and diagnosis, then he may qualify under a disability category... can be whole different formulas.</p><p></p><p>Anyway, lets assume there is not any help financially... Then it is one of those things, in my humble opinion that somehow, some way you will want to make happen even if it is a payment plan. A credit card, etc. </p><p></p><p>Some books that may help may include The Explosive Child by Ross Greene and Understanding Your Explosive Child by Doug Riley.</p><p></p><p>These really do offer a different perspective (though nothing is the total answer but can be a huge help and I for one can tell you that it made a huge difference and I too have a very aggressive and explosive child, even if for different reasons...the books are not targeted to diagnosis, but to how to figure out what is driving the behaviors for each separate child. Not filled with sticker charts and time outs.</p><p></p><p>You son has had some back and forth moves which,even with loving parents... can result in trauma. He may be feeling very insecure and it is scary to want to trust and love again when you are afraid that those you bond with may be out of our life again. Kids push away those that want to help and love them in those situations (at times). The fact that he had good early bonding says a lot for his prognosis if that is true and if this is an issue for him. </p><p></p><p>I hope you can find an expert in childhood attachment and anger...the wrong professionals can do more harm because they only see the sweet side that kids with these issues have learned to show people (for survival, gets them what they want) and they dont realize that the parents are really doing the best they can... </p><p></p><p>I wish you luck in blending your families. I hope he can find some peace and help with your support. Will be looking forward to hear what the court says about custody (never heard of a kid being taken away for pot before... not that it is a bad thing but seems like some kids have way worse issues at home and are not taken away... maybe there is more to it but no need to tell us, just was surprised to read that)</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="buddy, post: 506785, member: 12886"] C&L, HI there! Glad you found the board. I hear you about not meeting cut offs financially. I dont for anything except my son does qualify on his own due to his medical needs. If his dad can pay out of pocket to get a neuropsychologist evaluation or good psychiatric evaluation and diagnosis, then he may qualify under a disability category... can be whole different formulas. Anyway, lets assume there is not any help financially... Then it is one of those things, in my humble opinion that somehow, some way you will want to make happen even if it is a payment plan. A credit card, etc. Some books that may help may include The Explosive Child by Ross Greene and Understanding Your Explosive Child by Doug Riley. These really do offer a different perspective (though nothing is the total answer but can be a huge help and I for one can tell you that it made a huge difference and I too have a very aggressive and explosive child, even if for different reasons...the books are not targeted to diagnosis, but to how to figure out what is driving the behaviors for each separate child. Not filled with sticker charts and time outs. You son has had some back and forth moves which,even with loving parents... can result in trauma. He may be feeling very insecure and it is scary to want to trust and love again when you are afraid that those you bond with may be out of our life again. Kids push away those that want to help and love them in those situations (at times). The fact that he had good early bonding says a lot for his prognosis if that is true and if this is an issue for him. I hope you can find an expert in childhood attachment and anger...the wrong professionals can do more harm because they only see the sweet side that kids with these issues have learned to show people (for survival, gets them what they want) and they dont realize that the parents are really doing the best they can... I wish you luck in blending your families. I hope he can find some peace and help with your support. Will be looking forward to hear what the court says about custody (never heard of a kid being taken away for pot before... not that it is a bad thing but seems like some kids have way worse issues at home and are not taken away... maybe there is more to it but no need to tell us, just was surprised to read that) [/QUOTE]
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