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9 year old son has no respect for anything or anyone, amoung other things
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<blockquote data-quote="TeDo" data-source="post: 546627"><p>I was thinking along the same lines as IC because of the peeing stuff and the anger there. My son went through that after he was sexually abused by my teenage babysitter. </p><p></p><p>It could also be that he really is just plain mad like he said. It makes perfect sense to me and in our case the "blurts" are what they are truly feeling. In his case, his dad whom he was probably quite atttached to abandoned him for almost a year and then suddenly reappears as if nothing happened along with wife he might not like at all. Any normal kid is going to be mad. How they deal with it is where the problems lie. He seems to be lashing out at anyone and everyone but the fact that he's worse at his dads tells me that the anger has something to do with dad or something there. He needs someone safe (not his dad) and supportive that he can talk to about how he feels openly and honestly without any judgement whatsoever. He has a right to feel the way he feels and an outlet to vent them. You really need to read the book The Explosive Child by Ross Greene. It will help you with that part and teach you to be the kind of support he probably really needs. My son has trust issues because of abandonment and I am the ONLY person he really trusts because I have always been there, I support him even when he's being difficult, I allow him to be who he is, and I validate his feelings.</p><p></p><p>Because of the other stuff, it could be just another part of the anger but it could be that he really doesn't care about material things. Some kids are like that. They value other things a lot more.</p><p></p><p>One thing you'll find is that for most of our kids here, typical discipline doesn't work. Teaching the correct way, not using rewards, does a lot more than any punishment or reward is going to.</p><p></p><p>{{{{HUGS}}}} to you and welcome to our little corner of the world. Glad you found us but very sorry you needed to.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TeDo, post: 546627"] I was thinking along the same lines as IC because of the peeing stuff and the anger there. My son went through that after he was sexually abused by my teenage babysitter. It could also be that he really is just plain mad like he said. It makes perfect sense to me and in our case the "blurts" are what they are truly feeling. In his case, his dad whom he was probably quite atttached to abandoned him for almost a year and then suddenly reappears as if nothing happened along with wife he might not like at all. Any normal kid is going to be mad. How they deal with it is where the problems lie. He seems to be lashing out at anyone and everyone but the fact that he's worse at his dads tells me that the anger has something to do with dad or something there. He needs someone safe (not his dad) and supportive that he can talk to about how he feels openly and honestly without any judgement whatsoever. He has a right to feel the way he feels and an outlet to vent them. You really need to read the book The Explosive Child by Ross Greene. It will help you with that part and teach you to be the kind of support he probably really needs. My son has trust issues because of abandonment and I am the ONLY person he really trusts because I have always been there, I support him even when he's being difficult, I allow him to be who he is, and I validate his feelings. Because of the other stuff, it could be just another part of the anger but it could be that he really doesn't care about material things. Some kids are like that. They value other things a lot more. One thing you'll find is that for most of our kids here, typical discipline doesn't work. Teaching the correct way, not using rewards, does a lot more than any punishment or reward is going to. {{{{HUGS}}}} to you and welcome to our little corner of the world. Glad you found us but very sorry you needed to. [/QUOTE]
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