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<blockquote data-quote="trouble" data-source="post: 436747" data-attributes="member: 12116"><p>Its called being caught between a rock and a hard place.</p><p></p><p>Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) kid, crowded & noisy situation, around people who don't support you, with no control over the situation.... = guaranteed disaster at some point.</p><p></p><p>Learn to see it coming, and then pick which unpopular decision you're going to make, ahead of time... some ideas are:</p><p>1) Don't go.</p><p>2) Don't go unless YOU are the driver and in control of the situation</p><p>3) Drive separately (reduce the noise, confusion, etc. AND be in control of when to arrive and when to leave).</p><p></p><p>Trust me - you won't be liked for ANY of the above, but it sounds like they don't really "like" you anyway... so... </p><p></p><p>We've had to go with 1) and/or 3) as our only options - and as a result, our phone NEVER rings. We are simply NOT wanted - by absolutely ANYONE. This is really hard to explain to the kids. </p><p>But the only other option is to continually push the challenging kid over the edge, and create total chaos for WEEKS - and not be wanted because of the kid's behavior. We got to the point where having support of friends and family simply isn't worth it any more - we'd rather preserve the kid. So, we run solo. But its REALLY HARD.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="trouble, post: 436747, member: 12116"] Its called being caught between a rock and a hard place. Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) kid, crowded & noisy situation, around people who don't support you, with no control over the situation.... = guaranteed disaster at some point. Learn to see it coming, and then pick which unpopular decision you're going to make, ahead of time... some ideas are: 1) Don't go. 2) Don't go unless YOU are the driver and in control of the situation 3) Drive separately (reduce the noise, confusion, etc. AND be in control of when to arrive and when to leave). Trust me - you won't be liked for ANY of the above, but it sounds like they don't really "like" you anyway... so... We've had to go with 1) and/or 3) as our only options - and as a result, our phone NEVER rings. We are simply NOT wanted - by absolutely ANYONE. This is really hard to explain to the kids. But the only other option is to continually push the challenging kid over the edge, and create total chaos for WEEKS - and not be wanted because of the kid's behavior. We got to the point where having support of friends and family simply isn't worth it any more - we'd rather preserve the kid. So, we run solo. But its REALLY HARD. [/QUOTE]
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