helpmeplease
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I posted a few times yesterday and have been reading some about behavior modification for kids with ODD. My daughter has ODD/depression. One thing I read was to have a clear consequence for each behavior and also to try to work on one or two behaviors at a time. husband and I were talking last night about this and we came up with some questions. I'm hoping you guys can help with some ideas.
The main problems with my daughter are that she yells, whines, swears, and backtalks constantly. Especially in the car when she has a captive audience. Unfortunately, her younger siblings are subjected to listening to her rant during almost every car ride.
Let's say the consequence for mouthing off would be that she lose her tv priveleges for the day and her reward would be getting to stay up 30 minutes later at the end of the day.
So, it's 10am and we are driving to church. She starts mouthing off. Swearing, yelling, interrupting, etc. I turn around and say "Ok, since you are being rude and mouthing off, you have now lost all tv for the rest of the day."
Now, since she's lost all tv for the day, her thinking is that there is no use trying to behave, so she spends the entire day mouthing off and telling me what she thinks of me, swearing, whining, etc.
Eventually she'll desperately want to turn the tv on and she'll say "Please give me one more chance. If you let me turn on the tv, I promise I'll be good and if I talk back again you can turn it off. I promise I'll be good."
I'll say "no, you already lost that privelege, try again tomorrow."
Her response is "Fine, you #$%^&, I'll be so bad you will regret taking away my priveleges. If you don't let me watch tv I'll act worse and you'll regret this."
Any suggestions?
The main problems with my daughter are that she yells, whines, swears, and backtalks constantly. Especially in the car when she has a captive audience. Unfortunately, her younger siblings are subjected to listening to her rant during almost every car ride.
Let's say the consequence for mouthing off would be that she lose her tv priveleges for the day and her reward would be getting to stay up 30 minutes later at the end of the day.
So, it's 10am and we are driving to church. She starts mouthing off. Swearing, yelling, interrupting, etc. I turn around and say "Ok, since you are being rude and mouthing off, you have now lost all tv for the rest of the day."
Now, since she's lost all tv for the day, her thinking is that there is no use trying to behave, so she spends the entire day mouthing off and telling me what she thinks of me, swearing, whining, etc.
Eventually she'll desperately want to turn the tv on and she'll say "Please give me one more chance. If you let me turn on the tv, I promise I'll be good and if I talk back again you can turn it off. I promise I'll be good."
I'll say "no, you already lost that privelege, try again tomorrow."
Her response is "Fine, you #$%^&, I'll be so bad you will regret taking away my priveleges. If you don't let me watch tv I'll act worse and you'll regret this."
Any suggestions?