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<blockquote data-quote="Liahona" data-source="post: 528554"><p>In this state after a child is in the cps system lots of options open up that are closed to others. Explore those options as well as you try to get him tested. And get him tested! For everything under the sun! I looked up Intermittent Explosive Disorder (IED) and those kids show remorse afterwards and the explosions only last 10-20 min (according to the Mayo clinic.) And it is only diagnosis after all other diagnosis are ruled out. 5 is to young for everything else to be ruled out. Especially if they haven't had him for very long. If he were my son I'd take him to a developmental pediatrician or a neuropsychologist. Prepare a parent report. Here is the link to instructions on how to do one. </p><p></p><p> <a href="http://www.conductdisorders.com/forum/f7/parent-input-multi-disciplinary-evaluation-10/" target="_blank">http://www.conductdisorders.com/forum/f7/parent-input-multi-disciplinary-evaluation-10/</a></p><p></p><p>Is he on any medications? Which ones? Is he with a foster family or a more structured placement? Are they offering you family therapy? </p><p></p><p>You are in a very interesting situation. You will need to be very flexible on somethings and very insistent on others. If some yahoo in cps thinks you need to be wearing red every time you see him then you will be wearing red. If they think they need to be in your home they will be in your home. If they don't think he needs anymore testing or that your family doesn't need therapy fight them (politely of course.) </p><p></p><p>If he is in foster care you need to be in contact with them as much as possible. The foster parents might have had some training but probably not enough to prepare them. They will probably not know how to handle your son. Both of you need to attend every appointment and hear what the doctors are saying on how to handle him. Have as much contact as possible with your son. When difficult child 1 was first admitted to the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) I got a very cold reception from the staff because most of the kids in there have been messed up by their parents. It took me going to every mtg, calling as often as was allowed, talking to the therapist, psychiatrist, and staff as equals (even if at the time they didn't think of me as an equal) before they came around. I also challenged them to do things they weren't used to, like family therapy, because I felt it was in the best interest of my son and essential for my family getting back together. </p><p></p><p>Get as much in writing as you can as to what goals they have before your son can come home. What kind of therapy, how long without aggression, ect...? Think of it as a road map or guideline to getting your son home - not set in stone. It is also proof to others that interact with your son or get added to your case that you and cps are a team. This is not a case where the parents are at fault. I've know people who went to cps for help and got burned because there are people there that blame the parents. </p><p></p><p>Good luck the more information we have the better we can help. I hope what I have written helps and isn't taken as being bossy - that is not my intent.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Liahona, post: 528554"] In this state after a child is in the cps system lots of options open up that are closed to others. Explore those options as well as you try to get him tested. And get him tested! For everything under the sun! I looked up Intermittent Explosive Disorder (IED) and those kids show remorse afterwards and the explosions only last 10-20 min (according to the Mayo clinic.) And it is only diagnosis after all other diagnosis are ruled out. 5 is to young for everything else to be ruled out. Especially if they haven't had him for very long. If he were my son I'd take him to a developmental pediatrician or a neuropsychologist. Prepare a parent report. Here is the link to instructions on how to do one. [URL]http://www.conductdisorders.com/forum/f7/parent-input-multi-disciplinary-evaluation-10/[/URL] Is he on any medications? Which ones? Is he with a foster family or a more structured placement? Are they offering you family therapy? You are in a very interesting situation. You will need to be very flexible on somethings and very insistent on others. If some yahoo in cps thinks you need to be wearing red every time you see him then you will be wearing red. If they think they need to be in your home they will be in your home. If they don't think he needs anymore testing or that your family doesn't need therapy fight them (politely of course.) If he is in foster care you need to be in contact with them as much as possible. The foster parents might have had some training but probably not enough to prepare them. They will probably not know how to handle your son. Both of you need to attend every appointment and hear what the doctors are saying on how to handle him. Have as much contact as possible with your son. When difficult child 1 was first admitted to the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) I got a very cold reception from the staff because most of the kids in there have been messed up by their parents. It took me going to every mtg, calling as often as was allowed, talking to the therapist, psychiatrist, and staff as equals (even if at the time they didn't think of me as an equal) before they came around. I also challenged them to do things they weren't used to, like family therapy, because I felt it was in the best interest of my son and essential for my family getting back together. Get as much in writing as you can as to what goals they have before your son can come home. What kind of therapy, how long without aggression, ect...? Think of it as a road map or guideline to getting your son home - not set in stone. It is also proof to others that interact with your son or get added to your case that you and cps are a team. This is not a case where the parents are at fault. I've know people who went to cps for help and got burned because there are people there that blame the parents. Good luck the more information we have the better we can help. I hope what I have written helps and isn't taken as being bossy - that is not my intent. [/QUOTE]
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