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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 665173" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>Thanks for the update, Terry.</p><p></p><p>As we know, life with DCs rocks on. At least the big secret is now out in the open and they will have to deal with it.</p><p></p><p>I so understand being done, and just wanting them to....GO. I got to that point too.</p><p></p><p>I just wanted him OUT OF MY HOUSE. In any possible way.</p><p></p><p>In my case, my ex-husband (his dad) was way behind me in recovering from enabling, so Difficult Child went there. Then they finally got sick and tired of it all, and kicked him out.</p><p></p><p>In your case, can you and husband agree on a temporary plan to move him out earlier? Give him a period of time where you pay and then...the payment stops? 60 days or 90 days or some such amount of time? </p><p></p><p>Sometimes a plan like that makes the actual move-out happen...and even if it doesn't work, i.e., he doesn't start taking responsibility---he's out of the house and the next steps are his own.</p><p></p><p>Just a thought. I know it's very hard, but I also know that when you're done, you're done, and it's hard to keep them in the same house with you once you're done.</p><p></p><p>Let us know how things are going. We're here for you! Also glad you had that company over!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 665173, member: 17542"] Thanks for the update, Terry. As we know, life with DCs rocks on. At least the big secret is now out in the open and they will have to deal with it. I so understand being done, and just wanting them to....GO. I got to that point too. I just wanted him OUT OF MY HOUSE. In any possible way. In my case, my ex-husband (his dad) was way behind me in recovering from enabling, so Difficult Child went there. Then they finally got sick and tired of it all, and kicked him out. In your case, can you and husband agree on a temporary plan to move him out earlier? Give him a period of time where you pay and then...the payment stops? 60 days or 90 days or some such amount of time? Sometimes a plan like that makes the actual move-out happen...and even if it doesn't work, i.e., he doesn't start taking responsibility---he's out of the house and the next steps are his own. Just a thought. I know it's very hard, but I also know that when you're done, you're done, and it's hard to keep them in the same house with you once you're done. Let us know how things are going. We're here for you! Also glad you had that company over! [/QUOTE]
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