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A fight I really didn't expect at church
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<blockquote data-quote="Liahona" data-source="post: 463684"><p>Thank-you for your support. Changing churches isn't really an option. The 3 hours for the kids includes 1 hour were all the families are together (preaching), 1 hour of songs and stories, and 1 hour of Sunday school class time. The women's leader visited me again and told me I could bring my family (all of them) to church as long as a responsible adult was with difficult child 1 at all times. She also told me there are NO responsible adults who attend this church that can help me so it will have to be me. And I could not breastfeed easy child 3 while in the meetings or in the mothers room with difficult child 1. Translation: You can come, but we are going to make it as hard as possible in the name of keeping everyone safe. Before you all tell me the other kids being safe should come first over difficult child 1 going to church realize he has never even had any defiance in the church setting much less hurt anyone. Then she proceeded to tell me how sorry she was while I shut the door in her face. I didn't trust myself to speak much. </p><p></p><p>We're not going to church today. Not because of their un-Christen rudeness but because I can't get all the kids ready in time. I'd go with my kids if I could. Next week our church does something different, so this won't be an issue. Oct 9th will be the next time we can go to church. I'm going to go. I'm going to feed easy child 3 under a blanket in the meeting. I'm going to stay with difficult child 1 during his classes. While in the Sunday school class of 11 year olds if easy child 3 gets hungry difficult child 1 and I will find a different room. Maybe I can get my cousin to help me (I'll verify that he is a responsible adult even if they aren't.) He is talking to his wife and will get back with me sometime today. </p><p></p><p>There are members of this church who would be horrified by the way I have been treated. I have very good friends in this church and because of our schedules church is the only time I get to see them. Of course the way church will be set up for us Oct 9th and ever after I won't be seeing many other people besides the 11 year olds. The doctrine of this church has also helped me keep my sanity (maybe, am I sane?) and I would like to pass that on to my kids. So, even if I have to give up my friends to let my kids attend I will. The kids also have friends at church. </p><p></p><p>I am trying to keep this as non-confrontational as possible. A confrontation, while would relieve some of my anger, won't change them at all. I will contact my friends and tell them about the situation. Then maybe we can work something else out with our schedules. </p><p></p><p>Of course at home I'm crying and calling the preacher all sorts of swear words. But they'll never see that. They will see a calm person with difficult children that one or two stupid people aren't going to run out of the church.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Liahona, post: 463684"] Thank-you for your support. Changing churches isn't really an option. The 3 hours for the kids includes 1 hour were all the families are together (preaching), 1 hour of songs and stories, and 1 hour of Sunday school class time. The women's leader visited me again and told me I could bring my family (all of them) to church as long as a responsible adult was with difficult child 1 at all times. She also told me there are NO responsible adults who attend this church that can help me so it will have to be me. And I could not breastfeed easy child 3 while in the meetings or in the mothers room with difficult child 1. Translation: You can come, but we are going to make it as hard as possible in the name of keeping everyone safe. Before you all tell me the other kids being safe should come first over difficult child 1 going to church realize he has never even had any defiance in the church setting much less hurt anyone. Then she proceeded to tell me how sorry she was while I shut the door in her face. I didn't trust myself to speak much. We're not going to church today. Not because of their un-Christen rudeness but because I can't get all the kids ready in time. I'd go with my kids if I could. Next week our church does something different, so this won't be an issue. Oct 9th will be the next time we can go to church. I'm going to go. I'm going to feed easy child 3 under a blanket in the meeting. I'm going to stay with difficult child 1 during his classes. While in the Sunday school class of 11 year olds if easy child 3 gets hungry difficult child 1 and I will find a different room. Maybe I can get my cousin to help me (I'll verify that he is a responsible adult even if they aren't.) He is talking to his wife and will get back with me sometime today. There are members of this church who would be horrified by the way I have been treated. I have very good friends in this church and because of our schedules church is the only time I get to see them. Of course the way church will be set up for us Oct 9th and ever after I won't be seeing many other people besides the 11 year olds. The doctrine of this church has also helped me keep my sanity (maybe, am I sane?) and I would like to pass that on to my kids. So, even if I have to give up my friends to let my kids attend I will. The kids also have friends at church. I am trying to keep this as non-confrontational as possible. A confrontation, while would relieve some of my anger, won't change them at all. I will contact my friends and tell them about the situation. Then maybe we can work something else out with our schedules. Of course at home I'm crying and calling the preacher all sorts of swear words. But they'll never see that. They will see a calm person with difficult children that one or two stupid people aren't going to run out of the church. [/QUOTE]
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