CB, I think you were correct in not taking Subway for your difficult child. If there is anyway possible, I would not try to talk her into anything. She knows she is supposed to be in school. I would say, "you know you have to go to school and I expect you to do that." That is all I would say, because she gets a lot of attention for her negative behavior and you don't want to do that. You should also think about the fact that You are the one that is getting upset and nervous about her not going to school, not her. Do NOT allow her to do that to you. That is one thing you CAN control. If she makes that bad choice again, each and every time, I would call the truant officer with your head held high and report her truant. Your difficult child should be worrying more about this than you are and that has not been the case at all. You've covered for her a lot and offered and provided much help for her anxiety. At this point, I don't think it's her anxiety at all. She's playing you and you are allowing it. Not to be rude or harsh, I don't want to do that but she needs to step up big time and you need a break! Good luck!