I agree with you on that part CB and I do understand your frustration with him and with what I said. What I was really implying was that when your difficult child was hateful, skipped school, etc. if you could kind of shut down communication with her. Kind of like when you do what you are supposed to do, you'll get a positive response from me and when you don't do what I expect or speak in an appropriate way to me, you'll get the cold shoulder until you correct the situation. Sorry, CB, I didn't mean to upset you.