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<blockquote data-quote="dstc_99" data-source="post: 634455" data-attributes="member: 15473"><p>So basically dad is acting like a child because his child acted like a child. You are the one being punished because now he doesn't have to pull his weight as a parent and you feel bad your child isn't getting to spend time with him. Oh yeah and you don't get any down time from a child who can be difficult. in my humble opinion that is the definition of insanity.</p><p> </p><p>You have court documents stating when he is supposed to have her right? Then drop her off and ensure someone from that home sees her there and then leave. Legally it is his responsibility to be there for her during that time and to care for her. If she lived in his house he wouldn't be able to ignore her as a punishment for weeks on end. Pick her up when his visitations are over and don't argue the situation. He either does his part with his children or he doesn't. Notice I said children not child. UH UH Brother you don't get to pick to help with the easy kid and ignore the difficult one.</p><p> </p><p>There comes a point in time CB where you have to stop letting your ex play this game. You don't get to pick and chose which kid you take care of today. You don't get to say well difficult child is the difficult one and my boyfriend doesn't want to deal with her so you take her and I will take easy child. That is exactly what he has done to you in the past. You either have a child and care for it or you dont.</p><p> </p><p>If he doesn't want anything to do with difficult child then he should pay you more child support because he isn't paying for the days he is supposed to have visitiations. Let the court figure out how much 6 days a month costs you since he can't be bothered to take her. I would also request extra money based on the emotional distress it causes you and difficult child. You can't tell me it isn't hard on you managing a difficult child with no relief. You also cant tell me it doesnt effect difficult child's anxiety and medical issues when her father refuses to see her or care for her.</p><p> </p><p>He needs to make a decision. Does he want difficult child or not. If it were me it would be an all or none situation. You either see your chidren or you don't. But since it isn't me you and he might decide a split between him and difficult child is a good thing. If it is a good thing and you agree to it difficult child needs to be told upfront that she wont be seeing him anymore that he has chosen not to see her. This way she doesn't get her hopes up and keep dreaming pipe dreams about a relationship that isn't there. It would be a really harsh and horrible thing for your ex to do to her though.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="dstc_99, post: 634455, member: 15473"] So basically dad is acting like a child because his child acted like a child. You are the one being punished because now he doesn't have to pull his weight as a parent and you feel bad your child isn't getting to spend time with him. Oh yeah and you don't get any down time from a child who can be difficult. in my humble opinion that is the definition of insanity. You have court documents stating when he is supposed to have her right? Then drop her off and ensure someone from that home sees her there and then leave. Legally it is his responsibility to be there for her during that time and to care for her. If she lived in his house he wouldn't be able to ignore her as a punishment for weeks on end. Pick her up when his visitations are over and don't argue the situation. He either does his part with his children or he doesn't. Notice I said children not child. UH UH Brother you don't get to pick to help with the easy kid and ignore the difficult one. There comes a point in time CB where you have to stop letting your ex play this game. You don't get to pick and chose which kid you take care of today. You don't get to say well difficult child is the difficult one and my boyfriend doesn't want to deal with her so you take her and I will take easy child. That is exactly what he has done to you in the past. You either have a child and care for it or you dont. If he doesn't want anything to do with difficult child then he should pay you more child support because he isn't paying for the days he is supposed to have visitiations. Let the court figure out how much 6 days a month costs you since he can't be bothered to take her. I would also request extra money based on the emotional distress it causes you and difficult child. You can't tell me it isn't hard on you managing a difficult child with no relief. You also cant tell me it doesnt effect difficult child's anxiety and medical issues when her father refuses to see her or care for her. He needs to make a decision. Does he want difficult child or not. If it were me it would be an all or none situation. You either see your chidren or you don't. But since it isn't me you and he might decide a split between him and difficult child is a good thing. If it is a good thing and you agree to it difficult child needs to be told upfront that she wont be seeing him anymore that he has chosen not to see her. This way she doesn't get her hopes up and keep dreaming pipe dreams about a relationship that isn't there. It would be a really harsh and horrible thing for your ex to do to her though. [/QUOTE]
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