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A little bit of hope.
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<blockquote data-quote="WiseChoices" data-source="post: 752728" data-attributes="member: 24254"><p>Copa, I like this plan. AA tells us that only tough love works. Your son has not been able to function well on his own, so maybe holding him to your boundaries while offering a reward will be incentive enough. I do sometimes think that something happened in the developmental phase with our kids and so maybe, just maybe, there is some parenting left to do. More like encouraging discipline and something in return for shower and food than parenting, actually. Maybe this is the missing link in your case.</p><p></p><p>My DC1 is younger than yours, 24, but he showed that he does not function very well when he lived at school. He had most everything taken care of for him, and the minimal adulting that was required of him, he did not do: smoked pot, room was disorderly all semester, sheets never washed all semester, etc. So he returned home and maybe getting the finishing touches now with our house rules and life teaching him. Maybe it is similar with your son.</p><p></p><p>I hope this plan works and he steps up to the plate to start helping himself and seeing value in being of service and contributing to society.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="WiseChoices, post: 752728, member: 24254"] Copa, I like this plan. AA tells us that only tough love works. Your son has not been able to function well on his own, so maybe holding him to your boundaries while offering a reward will be incentive enough. I do sometimes think that something happened in the developmental phase with our kids and so maybe, just maybe, there is some parenting left to do. More like encouraging discipline and something in return for shower and food than parenting, actually. Maybe this is the missing link in your case. My DC1 is younger than yours, 24, but he showed that he does not function very well when he lived at school. He had most everything taken care of for him, and the minimal adulting that was required of him, he did not do: smoked pot, room was disorderly all semester, sheets never washed all semester, etc. So he returned home and maybe getting the finishing touches now with our house rules and life teaching him. Maybe it is similar with your son. I hope this plan works and he steps up to the plate to start helping himself and seeing value in being of service and contributing to society. [/QUOTE]
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