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<blockquote data-quote="witchiewoman71" data-source="post: 415949"><p>exhaustedinutah,</p><p>So happy to know that drive by feeling is not just me. I feel awful even thinking that way. I feel like Im the mom, I should not be so impatient and so frustrated. Its my job to be patient. Unfortunately, patience lately has not been my strong suit. I cannot help thinking why cant you just listen to what we say? If you would just stop running your mouth, things would not escalate like they do. I know she has impulse control issues, and I know the ODD makes her want to annoy me on purpose because somehow she thinks its funny. If I could get her to take medications, it would be better. I honestly have not had her on anything for months because she hides the pills in her mouth and then stashes them in her room. I worry that my 2 year old will find them and put them in her mouth and swallow. I am always up late because its the time I get to unwind with no fighting. I know they say that you do not have to attend every argument you are invited to, but I dont know what to do. Do I just allow her to say something nasty and not tell her to stop? Isnt that like letting her get away with it? My husband and I are both ex military, so we cannot even fathom the idea that a child of ours would disobey and talk back and do the things she does. We are very authoritarian, do as I say, type of parents. If we say, get a shower, it means get a shower, it doesnt mean turn it into a debate about why should you have to! Some would probably say we are strict, but I am trying to raise respectful children that respect authority and their elders.</p><p></p><p>I can honestly say, just reading the posts has helped me tremendously. Just having some support and people to talk to feels so much better. I sometimes sit and cry because I feel like no one understands what I go through. My husband seems to handle it better than I do. At least he doesnt lose it like I do. I dont want my other kids to suffer any more. Ive often said that if I could kick her out and now she would be ok, she would be out of here. I have been tempted to let her off grounding just to get her out of her and give us a break, but I dont want to be inconsistent. It is like a catch 22.</p><p></p><p>Thank you so much and thanks for the hugs. Definitely could use those!! <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/crying.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":crying:" title="crying :crying:" data-shortname=":crying:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="witchiewoman71, post: 415949"] exhaustedinutah, So happy to know that drive by feeling is not just me. I feel awful even thinking that way. I feel like Im the mom, I should not be so impatient and so frustrated. Its my job to be patient. Unfortunately, patience lately has not been my strong suit. I cannot help thinking why cant you just listen to what we say? If you would just stop running your mouth, things would not escalate like they do. I know she has impulse control issues, and I know the ODD makes her want to annoy me on purpose because somehow she thinks its funny. If I could get her to take medications, it would be better. I honestly have not had her on anything for months because she hides the pills in her mouth and then stashes them in her room. I worry that my 2 year old will find them and put them in her mouth and swallow. I am always up late because its the time I get to unwind with no fighting. I know they say that you do not have to attend every argument you are invited to, but I dont know what to do. Do I just allow her to say something nasty and not tell her to stop? Isnt that like letting her get away with it? My husband and I are both ex military, so we cannot even fathom the idea that a child of ours would disobey and talk back and do the things she does. We are very authoritarian, do as I say, type of parents. If we say, get a shower, it means get a shower, it doesnt mean turn it into a debate about why should you have to! Some would probably say we are strict, but I am trying to raise respectful children that respect authority and their elders. I can honestly say, just reading the posts has helped me tremendously. Just having some support and people to talk to feels so much better. I sometimes sit and cry because I feel like no one understands what I go through. My husband seems to handle it better than I do. At least he doesnt lose it like I do. I dont want my other kids to suffer any more. Ive often said that if I could kick her out and now she would be ok, she would be out of here. I have been tempted to let her off grounding just to get her out of her and give us a break, but I dont want to be inconsistent. It is like a catch 22. Thank you so much and thanks for the hugs. Definitely could use those!! :crying: [/QUOTE]
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