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<blockquote data-quote="AnnieO" data-source="post: 416232" data-attributes="member: 6705"><p>...Onyxx used to love doing dishes. Now? It's all I can do to get her to do them. Jett won't until he is reminded, and then does a terrible job on the handwash items.</p><p> </p><p>husband and I finally sat them both down and told them... Look, I don't like doing the dishes either, but I think you are both old enough to take responsibility. So here's how it works from now on. Don't do them at all? No allowance. Have to be reminded? Half allowance. Have to be reminded more than once? Back to none. Do it wrong or lazy? Have to redo them till I'm happy. (Still doesn't get them done, but I haven't paid out allowance in over a year... Hee hee hee)</p><p> </p><p>We have a list of chores they are supposed to do, that alternate weeks - litter box, every other day; dishes every weekday (husband and I do weekends and special things like the food processor, since it's not used much); pick up their stuff around the house; bathroom cleaning once a week; help out when asked. They have it EASY! I had a LOT more when I was a kid. But... They don't think they should HAVE to help. Well... When they're out on their own... It will be their problem. I just won't visit their first couple of apartments, so I don't see.</p><p> </p><p>Can she be redirected to talking WHILE she does the dishes? Or... How about she washes, you dry... Make it teamwork. I've noticed mine do things a LOT more readily when I ask... "Can you help me with...?"</p><p> </p><p>Just a thought.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="AnnieO, post: 416232, member: 6705"] ...Onyxx used to love doing dishes. Now? It's all I can do to get her to do them. Jett won't until he is reminded, and then does a terrible job on the handwash items. husband and I finally sat them both down and told them... Look, I don't like doing the dishes either, but I think you are both old enough to take responsibility. So here's how it works from now on. Don't do them at all? No allowance. Have to be reminded? Half allowance. Have to be reminded more than once? Back to none. Do it wrong or lazy? Have to redo them till I'm happy. (Still doesn't get them done, but I haven't paid out allowance in over a year... Hee hee hee) We have a list of chores they are supposed to do, that alternate weeks - litter box, every other day; dishes every weekday (husband and I do weekends and special things like the food processor, since it's not used much); pick up their stuff around the house; bathroom cleaning once a week; help out when asked. They have it EASY! I had a LOT more when I was a kid. But... They don't think they should HAVE to help. Well... When they're out on their own... It will be their problem. I just won't visit their first couple of apartments, so I don't see. Can she be redirected to talking WHILE she does the dishes? Or... How about she washes, you dry... Make it teamwork. I've noticed mine do things a LOT more readily when I ask... "Can you help me with...?" Just a thought. [/QUOTE]
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