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<blockquote data-quote="DaisyFace" data-source="post: 416275" data-attributes="member: 6546"><p>Witchie--</p><p> </p><p>In my household, I decided that the stress I was experiencing each night trying to get difficult child to do the dishes was WAAAAYYY more of a pain-in-the-rear than actually doint the dishes. So I kicked difficult child out of the kitchen - and now the dishes are clean, disinfected, sparkly, non-broken and carefully placed in the cupboards where they belong - PLUS I am more relaxed.</p><p> </p><p>Does this mean difficult child somehow "got away" with not doing chores? Well, no....</p><p> </p><p>I decided that if difficult child cannot handle the responsibilities (such as washing dishes) of a nearly-sixteen year old - then she does not get the priviledges of a nearly-sixteen year old either. She has no cell phone, no computer priviledges, no tv in her room, she is not a member of any team or club, I don't drive her here and there etc. I've decided that I am not willing to pay or provide any of those things at her current level of effort around here. So I do the dishes and save my money and my time to spend as I see fit.</p><p> </p><p>If she decides that she indeed wants any of those things? She can earn them.</p><p> </p><p>Meanwhile, her lack of a "life" is not my problem.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DaisyFace, post: 416275, member: 6546"] Witchie-- In my household, I decided that the stress I was experiencing each night trying to get difficult child to do the dishes was WAAAAYYY more of a pain-in-the-rear than actually doint the dishes. So I kicked difficult child out of the kitchen - and now the dishes are clean, disinfected, sparkly, non-broken and carefully placed in the cupboards where they belong - PLUS I am more relaxed. Does this mean difficult child somehow "got away" with not doing chores? Well, no.... I decided that if difficult child cannot handle the responsibilities (such as washing dishes) of a nearly-sixteen year old - then she does not get the priviledges of a nearly-sixteen year old either. She has no cell phone, no computer priviledges, no tv in her room, she is not a member of any team or club, I don't drive her here and there etc. I've decided that I am not willing to pay or provide any of those things at her current level of effort around here. So I do the dishes and save my money and my time to spend as I see fit. If she decides that she indeed wants any of those things? She can earn them. Meanwhile, her lack of a "life" is not my problem. [/QUOTE]
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