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<blockquote data-quote="Betty Boop Anna" data-source="post: 710362" data-attributes="member: 21622"><p>thank you so thank you so much for your words of encouragement, I still need that right now. Well let me tell you about today. I have a few friends that take care of my grandson because they care about me I guess. One of them have reached out to her actually both of them have reached out to her. One of them today was able to get her to meet at a park and play and they actually got to talk a little bit and she asked her some real questions like what's happening and what about this guy makes her happy. First off she didn't let her know that she knew anything she was just trying to be nice and say hey I'm here for you you got a new baby let me take the kids so you can rest, so you can take a nap whatever you want to do, that's kind of how this all started. Well anyways they were able to have some quality time together and talk I so appreciate that. She found out a few things that I'm not sure that I was not aware of already but my daughter really wants to be loved which I get it, and I think because she hasn't really shown the love and care to her own child and they live here and we have really been doing the parenting that I think that does hurt her in a way that she feels resentful towards us, I get it. On one hand I just can't stand back and watch her neglect her kids when she's right here in font of us on the other hand I really have a hard time letting go and watching it happen. I think that I've mentioned it that everytime I talk to my grandson he cries and says he just wants to come home, and I cannot even tell you how much that makes my heart hurt. She told my friend today that anytime I contact her I'm never asking about how she is and I only want to know how the little boy is but that's not really true, I think that's just her perspective. Every morning I text her and I just say good morning sunshine and wait for a response I do want to know how they are and I do worry about all of them. And honestly my daughter and I have not really always had the greatest relationship she doesn't communicate with us, she doesn't want us to know her business. I try to keep my distance so I feel like I'm kind of between a rock and a hard spot. As far as the 3 year old goes, I guess I just love him just like my own because we have had him with us and cared for him most of his life. I read to him everyday we sing songs we play games and in my presence very rarely does she really interact with him as far as playing with him or having fun with him. It's always a very demanding what she wants him to do. I guess I just don't understand that. When my kids were little maybe I had less patience as well, I feel like I have more patience now with my grandkids than I ever did with my own kids. I think sometimes, it's because you realize that your own kids grow up so fast that you wish you would have enjoyed them more, therefore you just love your grandkids a little bit more knowing it's such a short time that you have them. Anyways I know she just wants to be free and be on her own and I'm having a very difficult time with that especially since the way it's happening it just seems so wrong to me. I really don't understand how you could meet somebody one day and practically move in with them. it's been a little over 2 weeks and I don't understand. Whet do I say her her? how do I let her know that I love her so she gets it? and then it hurts me to see her have such little self-esteem and such little self respect. That she would allow a practical stranger to just incompass her life and not only that, her children! I'm worried about the baby but more so I'm worried about the three-year-old because he is so impressionable and he has expressed to me that he doesn't like the guy, & wants to come home. as it worked out today I was able to spend some time with him because she went to Walmart and our friend I needed to drop him off because she had other obligations. So I took full advantage of the opportunity to play with him outside we watered plants we played Legos we played play dough, we played bubbles. I just wanted to see him happy. He was so exhausted and started to get fussy so I sat down with him and we saying a few songs and he fell right to sleep. And quite honestly I just held him and cried. I know I have to be strong, get my act together stop showing my emotions on my sleeve.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Betty Boop Anna, post: 710362, member: 21622"] thank you so thank you so much for your words of encouragement, I still need that right now. Well let me tell you about today. I have a few friends that take care of my grandson because they care about me I guess. One of them have reached out to her actually both of them have reached out to her. One of them today was able to get her to meet at a park and play and they actually got to talk a little bit and she asked her some real questions like what's happening and what about this guy makes her happy. First off she didn't let her know that she knew anything she was just trying to be nice and say hey I'm here for you you got a new baby let me take the kids so you can rest, so you can take a nap whatever you want to do, that's kind of how this all started. Well anyways they were able to have some quality time together and talk I so appreciate that. She found out a few things that I'm not sure that I was not aware of already but my daughter really wants to be loved which I get it, and I think because she hasn't really shown the love and care to her own child and they live here and we have really been doing the parenting that I think that does hurt her in a way that she feels resentful towards us, I get it. On one hand I just can't stand back and watch her neglect her kids when she's right here in font of us on the other hand I really have a hard time letting go and watching it happen. I think that I've mentioned it that everytime I talk to my grandson he cries and says he just wants to come home, and I cannot even tell you how much that makes my heart hurt. She told my friend today that anytime I contact her I'm never asking about how she is and I only want to know how the little boy is but that's not really true, I think that's just her perspective. Every morning I text her and I just say good morning sunshine and wait for a response I do want to know how they are and I do worry about all of them. And honestly my daughter and I have not really always had the greatest relationship she doesn't communicate with us, she doesn't want us to know her business. I try to keep my distance so I feel like I'm kind of between a rock and a hard spot. As far as the 3 year old goes, I guess I just love him just like my own because we have had him with us and cared for him most of his life. I read to him everyday we sing songs we play games and in my presence very rarely does she really interact with him as far as playing with him or having fun with him. It's always a very demanding what she wants him to do. I guess I just don't understand that. When my kids were little maybe I had less patience as well, I feel like I have more patience now with my grandkids than I ever did with my own kids. I think sometimes, it's because you realize that your own kids grow up so fast that you wish you would have enjoyed them more, therefore you just love your grandkids a little bit more knowing it's such a short time that you have them. Anyways I know she just wants to be free and be on her own and I'm having a very difficult time with that especially since the way it's happening it just seems so wrong to me. I really don't understand how you could meet somebody one day and practically move in with them. it's been a little over 2 weeks and I don't understand. Whet do I say her her? how do I let her know that I love her so she gets it? and then it hurts me to see her have such little self-esteem and such little self respect. That she would allow a practical stranger to just incompass her life and not only that, her children! I'm worried about the baby but more so I'm worried about the three-year-old because he is so impressionable and he has expressed to me that he doesn't like the guy, & wants to come home. as it worked out today I was able to spend some time with him because she went to Walmart and our friend I needed to drop him off because she had other obligations. So I took full advantage of the opportunity to play with him outside we watered plants we played Legos we played play dough, we played bubbles. I just wanted to see him happy. He was so exhausted and started to get fussy so I sat down with him and we saying a few songs and he fell right to sleep. And quite honestly I just held him and cried. I know I have to be strong, get my act together stop showing my emotions on my sleeve. [/QUOTE]
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