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<blockquote data-quote="Betty Boop Anna" data-source="post: 710413" data-attributes="member: 21622"><p>Okay, so here we go, last night after my daughter came to pick up her son he was still asleep on the couch. Usually she has no problem just picking him up while he's sleeping and take him wherever it is and she wants to go. For some reason she said that he could just stay here because he was asleep and she could pick him up tomorrow. I was kind of surprised by that as that has not really happened before however I was pleased she would allow him to stay and not wake him up. While she was here I took advantage of a moment we had alone, I gave her a hug and I told her how much I loved her and how beautiful that she is, and how I felt that things were beginning to get better between us before she left. And I also told her how sad I was by sudden Interruption of her up and leaving for no apparent reason, there was no argument or disagreements no real reason just she just left, of course I really have a hard time with my emotions, I Esser going to cry but I just cried and I held her and I just tried to love her. she said that she loved me but no other explanation to any thing that is going on. I told her I would love to spend have her just you and me maybe Saturday we could go shopping and maybe have some lunch and let Dad watch the kids and she said sure that would be nice. Wow! so I was pleased to hear that, however after that she still left to go the guys apartment.</p><p>My other friend took my grandson today till my daughter could come and get him. This just like most of the other morning all week, I just texted her and I said good morning sunshine and wait for a response. She finally responded with good morning, I really didn't know much else to say, the interaction I have with my two friends contacting her with the child, I tried to keep quiet so she doesn't think that we're all talking behind her. My friend brought my grandson to school and we were able to visit and spend a little time together. She had made plans to keep him till later this evening because her daughter had volleyball and they were going to have dinner and she said she could bring him home or she could pick him up afterwards about 8 o'clock tonight. I contacted my daughter to see how she was I tried not to mention the kids too much because I'm trying to focus more on her to let her that I really love her and thay I care about her. I asked her what time she would be getting her son and if she would like to stop by and have dinner she said she didn't know what her plans were yet. Later my friend let me know my grandson wanted to go home but we both knew home ment here and not the guys place. I stayed strong and told her to check with Mommy if she want to pick him up or have him dropped off here with us. I just wanted to make sure she feel like I was not trying to take over. And then I called my daughter to ask her if we were still on for maybe breakfast or lunch and some shopping tomorrow and she said yes and that she would be home tonight to stay here with us. I'm a little puzzled to why she is being so nice right now I have a few ideas as to why, but really I hope that maybe we're making some progress in our relationship. I know it can't happen really that fast but I'm taking every little positive thing I can.</p><p>I'd like to back up just a little bit, can't remember what else I've mentioned about our situation. We have bailed her out financially several times this past year and she buried herself in which in fact buried is in a little bit as well. She leases a car and she chose not make her payment for about four months, car got repossessed, I felt that she kind of needed her car and talk to my husband and we decided to go ahead and get her car back, probably the worst thing we could have done. what's done is done more tho. the circumstances in getting her car back was she would have to give us her tax information so that we could have her taxes done and deposit in our account to pay for the fees involved in getting her car back. Also that her disability checks from being on maternity leave would be given to us so that we can help pay her bills and try to get her back on track. This all seems like a great idea and she agreed to it mainly because she wanted her car back. then of course she's meeting this new guy i think changed her mind about letting us help her. When her EDD card arrived, she activated it and handed over to her dad, we were to use that to pay her bills, and all of a sudden it was not valid so I asked her to call and find out what might have been the problem and she said that she needed to go to the bank to figure it out I did not really argue with her but I just told her that she could probably just make a phone call and she doesn't really need to go to the bank because the bank really isn't the issue, it's the EDD. I did also ask her if it was possible she may be cancelled the card . We couldn't use it to pay her bills. She denied that accusation, however she said she would go to the bank and tried to find out why it wouldn't work later that night I asked her if she made it to the bank and she said oh no I called and they are sending me a new card. So I said okay and just went with it. The very next day another card showed up in the which she does not know that we have received so I didn't mention it to her as they're just hasn't been an appropriate time to discuss with her without other people. Then I found out through another mutual friend that she did cancel the card the second card and she was expecting a third card sometime around the 11th, so knowing that, maybe this guy is trying get her give him money and that's the issue. anyways we diverted our mail to go to a PO box so we can intercept the card, it hasn't arrived yet and she doesn't know that we have received the second card, so in the meantime I can't help but to think maybe she's being so nice and cooperative because she's waiting for this card. Do you have any words of wisdom as to how I can begin a conversation during our time tomorrow? What kinds of things I should talk about, what I shouldn't talk about? maybe just not talk about much of anything and just enjoy our time together. I just don't want to waste this opportunity. and I also don't want to say anything to push her away.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Betty Boop Anna, post: 710413, member: 21622"] Okay, so here we go, last night after my daughter came to pick up her son he was still asleep on the couch. Usually she has no problem just picking him up while he's sleeping and take him wherever it is and she wants to go. For some reason she said that he could just stay here because he was asleep and she could pick him up tomorrow. I was kind of surprised by that as that has not really happened before however I was pleased she would allow him to stay and not wake him up. While she was here I took advantage of a moment we had alone, I gave her a hug and I told her how much I loved her and how beautiful that she is, and how I felt that things were beginning to get better between us before she left. And I also told her how sad I was by sudden Interruption of her up and leaving for no apparent reason, there was no argument or disagreements no real reason just she just left, of course I really have a hard time with my emotions, I Esser going to cry but I just cried and I held her and I just tried to love her. she said that she loved me but no other explanation to any thing that is going on. I told her I would love to spend have her just you and me maybe Saturday we could go shopping and maybe have some lunch and let Dad watch the kids and she said sure that would be nice. Wow! so I was pleased to hear that, however after that she still left to go the guys apartment. My other friend took my grandson today till my daughter could come and get him. This just like most of the other morning all week, I just texted her and I said good morning sunshine and wait for a response. She finally responded with good morning, I really didn't know much else to say, the interaction I have with my two friends contacting her with the child, I tried to keep quiet so she doesn't think that we're all talking behind her. My friend brought my grandson to school and we were able to visit and spend a little time together. She had made plans to keep him till later this evening because her daughter had volleyball and they were going to have dinner and she said she could bring him home or she could pick him up afterwards about 8 o'clock tonight. I contacted my daughter to see how she was I tried not to mention the kids too much because I'm trying to focus more on her to let her that I really love her and thay I care about her. I asked her what time she would be getting her son and if she would like to stop by and have dinner she said she didn't know what her plans were yet. Later my friend let me know my grandson wanted to go home but we both knew home ment here and not the guys place. I stayed strong and told her to check with Mommy if she want to pick him up or have him dropped off here with us. I just wanted to make sure she feel like I was not trying to take over. And then I called my daughter to ask her if we were still on for maybe breakfast or lunch and some shopping tomorrow and she said yes and that she would be home tonight to stay here with us. I'm a little puzzled to why she is being so nice right now I have a few ideas as to why, but really I hope that maybe we're making some progress in our relationship. I know it can't happen really that fast but I'm taking every little positive thing I can. I'd like to back up just a little bit, can't remember what else I've mentioned about our situation. We have bailed her out financially several times this past year and she buried herself in which in fact buried is in a little bit as well. She leases a car and she chose not make her payment for about four months, car got repossessed, I felt that she kind of needed her car and talk to my husband and we decided to go ahead and get her car back, probably the worst thing we could have done. what's done is done more tho. the circumstances in getting her car back was she would have to give us her tax information so that we could have her taxes done and deposit in our account to pay for the fees involved in getting her car back. Also that her disability checks from being on maternity leave would be given to us so that we can help pay her bills and try to get her back on track. This all seems like a great idea and she agreed to it mainly because she wanted her car back. then of course she's meeting this new guy i think changed her mind about letting us help her. When her EDD card arrived, she activated it and handed over to her dad, we were to use that to pay her bills, and all of a sudden it was not valid so I asked her to call and find out what might have been the problem and she said that she needed to go to the bank to figure it out I did not really argue with her but I just told her that she could probably just make a phone call and she doesn't really need to go to the bank because the bank really isn't the issue, it's the EDD. I did also ask her if it was possible she may be cancelled the card . We couldn't use it to pay her bills. She denied that accusation, however she said she would go to the bank and tried to find out why it wouldn't work later that night I asked her if she made it to the bank and she said oh no I called and they are sending me a new card. So I said okay and just went with it. The very next day another card showed up in the which she does not know that we have received so I didn't mention it to her as they're just hasn't been an appropriate time to discuss with her without other people. Then I found out through another mutual friend that she did cancel the card the second card and she was expecting a third card sometime around the 11th, so knowing that, maybe this guy is trying get her give him money and that's the issue. anyways we diverted our mail to go to a PO box so we can intercept the card, it hasn't arrived yet and she doesn't know that we have received the second card, so in the meantime I can't help but to think maybe she's being so nice and cooperative because she's waiting for this card. Do you have any words of wisdom as to how I can begin a conversation during our time tomorrow? What kinds of things I should talk about, what I shouldn't talk about? maybe just not talk about much of anything and just enjoy our time together. I just don't want to waste this opportunity. and I also don't want to say anything to push her away. [/QUOTE]
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