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<blockquote data-quote="lovemysons" data-source="post: 279601" data-attributes="member: 3305"><p>Hi Jo, </p><p></p><p>I so agree that our easy child's tend to become "self reliant and resiliant" as a result of being raised with a difficult child sibling. </p><p>I understand what you're saying too about being cut off from emotion...my easy child can keep herself VERY guarded at times. She does tend to gravitate...or maybe I should say, her friends tend to gravitate toward her very caring/nurturing side. She tends to have friends that are "injured" in some way...have emotional problems and have experienced a tougher than usual life. She is the strong one in the relationship. But she has very lil pity for her difficult child brother number 2 who feels extremely sorry for himself. She is really tough about his past drug use and what he did to our family for years (oldest difficult child did too but she he does not feel sorry for himself, etc...she has a better relationship with him. </p><p></p><p>My easy child wants to be a psychologist some day...and I suspect she will be an awesome listening ear and be able to help guide many people into finding better solutions/coping skills. </p><p></p><p>Anyway, I do hear ya on the "price" our easy child's pay...hopefully their inner strength will carry them forward without too many problems. So far so good, huh. </p><p></p><p>I understand too what you're saying about when to step in and save the day or when to let our difficult child's experience/learn from life and come to their own conclusions. It is so hard to fully detach. </p><p>I often say to my young difficult child now...you are an adult and you will find out the results of (insert situation) on your own and see if it worked/works. </p><p>There is very little I should say or do at this point in my difficult child's lives. They are grown...as I am reminded by my wise aunt, what's done is done. </p><p>Hopefully they will land on their feet...time will tell. </p><p></p><p></p><p>Thinking of you, </p><p>Tammy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="lovemysons, post: 279601, member: 3305"] Hi Jo, I so agree that our easy child's tend to become "self reliant and resiliant" as a result of being raised with a difficult child sibling. I understand what you're saying too about being cut off from emotion...my easy child can keep herself VERY guarded at times. She does tend to gravitate...or maybe I should say, her friends tend to gravitate toward her very caring/nurturing side. She tends to have friends that are "injured" in some way...have emotional problems and have experienced a tougher than usual life. She is the strong one in the relationship. But she has very lil pity for her difficult child brother number 2 who feels extremely sorry for himself. She is really tough about his past drug use and what he did to our family for years (oldest difficult child did too but she he does not feel sorry for himself, etc...she has a better relationship with him. My easy child wants to be a psychologist some day...and I suspect she will be an awesome listening ear and be able to help guide many people into finding better solutions/coping skills. Anyway, I do hear ya on the "price" our easy child's pay...hopefully their inner strength will carry them forward without too many problems. So far so good, huh. I understand too what you're saying about when to step in and save the day or when to let our difficult child's experience/learn from life and come to their own conclusions. It is so hard to fully detach. I often say to my young difficult child now...you are an adult and you will find out the results of (insert situation) on your own and see if it worked/works. There is very little I should say or do at this point in my difficult child's lives. They are grown...as I am reminded by my wise aunt, what's done is done. Hopefully they will land on their feet...time will tell. Thinking of you, Tammy [/QUOTE]
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