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<blockquote data-quote="welcometowitsend" data-source="post: 562945" data-attributes="member: 14356"><p>SuZir - Some really interesting observations. </p><p></p><p>I think you are definitely on to something. I think every parenting mistake affects difficult child more than it affects easy child. I wonder if they feel the pain of our mistakes acutely while at the same time don't respond to or accept the good parenting we've done. I would guess that is how our difficult child feels. Every mistake I've made is amplified into a huge thing and all the wonderful, good things we did were not wanted, appreciated or given any credit. </p><p></p><p>Reminds me of the award difficult child won for baseball when he was 5 or 6 - Most Improved Uncoachable Player. LOL. He improved despite the coaching not because of it because he didn't listen to a word his coaches said. LOL </p><p></p><p>Malika - I'm so lucky in that we haven't received a lot of judgement from people due to our difficult child's behaviour. Most of our friends and family have nothing but good things to say about our parenting and they are in as much shock as we are with regards to the path difficult child has taken. There may be people at the school or even some friends that are judgmental but they aren't saying anything to my face. </p><p></p><p>I think it is so important to be as open as I can with people about the realities of my life. I've always felt this way, from the time my kids were babies. I hate it when people paint a pretty picture of a perfect life and let others feel like 'loser mom's' because they think they aren't keeping up or doing a good enough job. We do ourselves as women and parents a disservice by doing that. So, while I don't think I have much to offer in the way of advice, I guess I can still offer a compassionate ear and not pretend to have a pretty peachy life.</p><p></p><p>SuZir - Please don't ever feel like a 'loser mom'. You have been the best parent to your difficult child that you can possibly be. Are you perfect? No. Is your difficult child more difficult than the other parents easy child's? Most definitely. So, hold your head up high - you are another Mom on these boards that I admire and have a lot of respect for - and you deserve it!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="welcometowitsend, post: 562945, member: 14356"] SuZir - Some really interesting observations. I think you are definitely on to something. I think every parenting mistake affects difficult child more than it affects easy child. I wonder if they feel the pain of our mistakes acutely while at the same time don't respond to or accept the good parenting we've done. I would guess that is how our difficult child feels. Every mistake I've made is amplified into a huge thing and all the wonderful, good things we did were not wanted, appreciated or given any credit. Reminds me of the award difficult child won for baseball when he was 5 or 6 - Most Improved Uncoachable Player. LOL. He improved despite the coaching not because of it because he didn't listen to a word his coaches said. LOL Malika - I'm so lucky in that we haven't received a lot of judgement from people due to our difficult child's behaviour. Most of our friends and family have nothing but good things to say about our parenting and they are in as much shock as we are with regards to the path difficult child has taken. There may be people at the school or even some friends that are judgmental but they aren't saying anything to my face. I think it is so important to be as open as I can with people about the realities of my life. I've always felt this way, from the time my kids were babies. I hate it when people paint a pretty picture of a perfect life and let others feel like 'loser mom's' because they think they aren't keeping up or doing a good enough job. We do ourselves as women and parents a disservice by doing that. So, while I don't think I have much to offer in the way of advice, I guess I can still offer a compassionate ear and not pretend to have a pretty peachy life. SuZir - Please don't ever feel like a 'loser mom'. You have been the best parent to your difficult child that you can possibly be. Are you perfect? No. Is your difficult child more difficult than the other parents easy child's? Most definitely. So, hold your head up high - you are another Mom on these boards that I admire and have a lot of respect for - and you deserve it! [/QUOTE]
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