When my children were younger and so well behaved I had absolutely no problem discussing parenting styles and ideas with people. I didn't mind giving thoughts or ideas to people if they asked for advice or were curious about how I handled things. Now that I have a full blown difficult child and our lives seem to be off the rails I have zero confidence in that arena. I often wonder why people would even bother to ask me - obviously I don't have the answers, given our situation. That's not to say that I think his behaviour is because of the way we parented. I think husband and I did a great job overall with some mistakes scattered here and there over the years. And of course we are still actively parenting easy child. I guess because I can't pinpoint a "where we went wrong" scenario and I can't say that what we did "worked well" with difficult child then I really don't feel like I'm the kind of person that should be giving advice. Does anyone else feel like that? Does that feeling fade as you learn more and develop more skills in dealing with difficult child's? Just curious as to what everyone thinks.