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<blockquote data-quote="Rotsne" data-source="post: 213110" data-attributes="member: 6326"><p>I guessed that it is a totally other society you are dealing with on everyday basis. I was also shocked by how far our cultures have moved from each other the past 20-30 years. When I arrived there was more slack to act non-danish, but especially the war against terrorism has made the danish people stand firm. Some of you might have heard about the <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cartoon_crisis" target="_blank">cartoon crisis (link)</a>. In Denmark it is regarded as the biggest single incident to have strengthen the self-esteem among the normal citizens since we helped the jews to escape in WWII. It did hurt the circles where young terrorism are recruited very bad. </p><p> </p><p>Regarding who she sees and how she manage in school the answer is that she actually sees none after school. We are working class people. Sports and other interests are something for the higher circles. The church are no something people attend very much, so we dont have church sponsored clubs. Unless people have something personal to attend to in church concerning their own family then dont go. Most sundays you can find 3-10 people in church. A lot of funerals are only attended by the priest and employees of the church. </p><p> </p><p>But my daughter are a straight-A student and most of the time she does her chores without arguement, which have caused our family coach to suggest that she is a pleaser and she should go to a continuation high school for a year. The general </p><p style="text-align: left">assumption among social workers are that if the youth dont rebel something is wrong. </p> <p style="text-align: left"></p> <p style="text-align: left">In the old days continuation high schools (Danish term:efterskole) was our juvies. In Denmark no child below 15 can be charged with a crime, so all kind of youth who did commit crimes were sent to such schools. Today youth without any problems enroll in such school voluntary so they can appear tough among peers when they return home either expelled as up to 33 percent do or with an exam paper. I dont know what continuation schools are called in the states. Maybe Therapeutic Boarding Schools. A lot of them have ban on mobile phones the first month, but normally the kids are home during holidays and every weekends. Here is something about those schools from <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Continuation_high_school" target="_blank">wikipedia (link)</a>.</p><p></p><p>But I am still worried to banish my child from her home for no reason. Some of the schools do even have a ban against tobacco. It is not that she is a smoker, but history has shown that youth be smokers at those schools or they will be isolated. I know a lot of parents who have told the school that their children are smoker even if they are not, so there wouldn't be problems in they take up this bad and expensive habbit. (Tobacco in Denmark have 80% tax on them, so our government are not very busy to outlaw consumption among youth. Only purchase.). Our heathcare system has made a public warning that the combination of both smoking ban and ban on mobile phone have resulted in increased risk of <a href="http://translate.google.dk/translate?u=http%3A%2F%2Fhelse.dk%2FDefault.aspx%3FID%3D157%26M%3DNews%26PID%3D4581%26NewsID%3D5401&hl=da&ie=UTF-8&sl=da&tl=en" target="_blank">suicides (link. I know that it is poor translated, but I could't find anything in English)</a>.</p><p> </p><p>My question to the social worker from the very start has been: "Why should she be punished when she doesn't have committed a crime and when she is functioning very well in our family unit?"</p><p> </p><p>Our only problem after all is that she could be a social outcast in the workspace and while that is bad, we do have a lot of fonded jobs where people can work part time if they suffer from various issues. I am standing quiet firm against the family coach.</p><p> </p><p>But we will try something new. We will send her to a police-sponsored and arranged party for youth in a town near us. They allow kids to arrive drunk but only so drunk that they can walk on their own feet. Inside they dont serve alcohol and if a youth wants to leave, he or she cannot come back this evening. They call it a challenge of self-control. To little and the party is boring. To much and you dont get in. Here is something about <a href="http://fedfest4040.dk/nyheder/index.php" target="_blank">the party (link).</a></p><p> </p><p>You can see that I have my hands full. Just to show how different our culture is I have found this page describing a little <a href="http://alcoholcultureindenmark.webbyen.dk/" target="_blank">about our look on alcohol consumption (link)</a>.</p><p> </p><p>I am trying be positive, but just this evening our national television is showing a documentary about a normal Danish boy, who is in jail for acts terrorism. He did isolate himself and joined those dangerous groups who is among us. We dont have homeland security here and we are so to say in the front line and have to watch out for those youth who dont act like the others. It is just very hard to a child who is different.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Rotsne, post: 213110, member: 6326"] I guessed that it is a totally other society you are dealing with on everyday basis. I was also shocked by how far our cultures have moved from each other the past 20-30 years. When I arrived there was more slack to act non-danish, but especially the war against terrorism has made the danish people stand firm. Some of you might have heard about the [URL="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cartoon_crisis"]cartoon crisis (link)[/URL]. In Denmark it is regarded as the biggest single incident to have strengthen the self-esteem among the normal citizens since we helped the jews to escape in WWII. It did hurt the circles where young terrorism are recruited very bad. Regarding who she sees and how she manage in school the answer is that she actually sees none after school. We are working class people. Sports and other interests are something for the higher circles. The church are no something people attend very much, so we dont have church sponsored clubs. Unless people have something personal to attend to in church concerning their own family then dont go. Most sundays you can find 3-10 people in church. A lot of funerals are only attended by the priest and employees of the church. But my daughter are a straight-A student and most of the time she does her chores without arguement, which have caused our family coach to suggest that she is a pleaser and she should go to a continuation high school for a year. The general [LEFT]assumption among social workers are that if the youth dont rebel something is wrong. In the old days continuation high schools (Danish term:efterskole) was our juvies. In Denmark no child below 15 can be charged with a crime, so all kind of youth who did commit crimes were sent to such schools. Today youth without any problems enroll in such school voluntary so they can appear tough among peers when they return home either expelled as up to 33 percent do or with an exam paper. I dont know what continuation schools are called in the states. Maybe Therapeutic Boarding Schools. A lot of them have ban on mobile phones the first month, but normally the kids are home during holidays and every weekends. Here is something about those schools from [URL="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Continuation_high_school"]wikipedia (link)[/URL].[/LEFT] But I am still worried to banish my child from her home for no reason. Some of the schools do even have a ban against tobacco. It is not that she is a smoker, but history has shown that youth be smokers at those schools or they will be isolated. I know a lot of parents who have told the school that their children are smoker even if they are not, so there wouldn't be problems in they take up this bad and expensive habbit. (Tobacco in Denmark have 80% tax on them, so our government are not very busy to outlaw consumption among youth. Only purchase.). Our heathcare system has made a public warning that the combination of both smoking ban and ban on mobile phone have resulted in increased risk of [URL="http://translate.google.dk/translate?u=http%3A%2F%2Fhelse.dk%2FDefault.aspx%3FID%3D157%26M%3DNews%26PID%3D4581%26NewsID%3D5401&hl=da&ie=UTF-8&sl=da&tl=en"]suicides (link. I know that it is poor translated, but I could't find anything in English)[/URL]. My question to the social worker from the very start has been: "Why should she be punished when she doesn't have committed a crime and when she is functioning very well in our family unit?" Our only problem after all is that she could be a social outcast in the workspace and while that is bad, we do have a lot of fonded jobs where people can work part time if they suffer from various issues. I am standing quiet firm against the family coach. But we will try something new. We will send her to a police-sponsored and arranged party for youth in a town near us. They allow kids to arrive drunk but only so drunk that they can walk on their own feet. Inside they dont serve alcohol and if a youth wants to leave, he or she cannot come back this evening. They call it a challenge of self-control. To little and the party is boring. To much and you dont get in. Here is something about [URL="http://fedfest4040.dk/nyheder/index.php"]the party (link).[/URL] You can see that I have my hands full. Just to show how different our culture is I have found this page describing a little [URL="http://alcoholcultureindenmark.webbyen.dk/"]about our look on alcohol consumption (link)[/URL]. I am trying be positive, but just this evening our national television is showing a documentary about a normal Danish boy, who is in jail for acts terrorism. He did isolate himself and joined those dangerous groups who is among us. We dont have homeland security here and we are so to say in the front line and have to watch out for those youth who dont act like the others. It is just very hard to a child who is different. [/QUOTE]
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