husband took difficult child to wrestling last night. When I got home from book club he was really upset/sad. difficult child was wrestling with two other boys. difficult child doesn't really get along well with one of the boys-me thinks the boy may be a difficult child in his own right but I don't really know. Apparently on the way home husband was trying to explain how he just had to do his best, you have to work with people you don't like very much. difficult child gets along with almost everyone on the team and didn't have this problem last year-this kid is new. Finally difficult child said he didn't like the boy because he cusses-now my difficult child cusses all the time so why this should bother him but when asked what the boy said he told husband the boy called him the N word. This made me very sad when I heard it. Now most of you know we've had a problem with difficult child using that word-he has not used it at wrestling. We have really cracked down on him using that word. He knows how much we hate it. Not an excuse at all but difficult child is African American and often the boys at his school will use that term for one another. We still tell him it is inappropriate and unacceptable and he gets a consequence every time he says the word. The boy who called difficult child this is not African American. husband said he is going to talk to the coach because he doesn't want the two boys to be partnered up anymore. I think this is probably a good idea because I don't want difficult child to end up blowing up one day. My question is, do you think we're right in talking to the coach?