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A Stinker of a Day!
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<blockquote data-quote="SRL" data-source="post: 46978" data-attributes="member: 701"><p>I'm sorry, Dara, I didn't mean to be insensitive to how much it hurts. My difficult child dished out a lot of rejection and over time I came to realize it wasn't *difficult child* but his neurological miswiring that was doing the rejection. Without this disorder, I am convinced that my difficult child would be the most laid back kid in my house! Over time my skin has thickened up and his behavior is more moderate so it's easier--he' past the age most boys cuddle with mom and not dishing up the verbal rejection comments that are so hard on us parents. Of course, he's in that preteen stage now so I'll need to gear up for another round coming soon. </p><p></p><p>I think it's pretty common for difficult children to have one parent who they are far more difficult towards. I got the best of it and the worst of it in terms of good relationship and meltdowns but my husband had some really rough years to endure. difficult child went on a "Down with Dad" kick and had a steady supply of negative comments and behaviors for him. For the most part he just ignored it and in time it wore off. </p><p></p><p>I think one of the hardest parts of parenting a difficult child child is that we miss out on a lot of the normal rewards of parenting. That's balanced out by a different sense of accomplishment and joy when our kids do well, but not at all the same for the long haul.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SRL, post: 46978, member: 701"] I'm sorry, Dara, I didn't mean to be insensitive to how much it hurts. My difficult child dished out a lot of rejection and over time I came to realize it wasn't *difficult child* but his neurological miswiring that was doing the rejection. Without this disorder, I am convinced that my difficult child would be the most laid back kid in my house! Over time my skin has thickened up and his behavior is more moderate so it's easier--he' past the age most boys cuddle with mom and not dishing up the verbal rejection comments that are so hard on us parents. Of course, he's in that preteen stage now so I'll need to gear up for another round coming soon. I think it's pretty common for difficult children to have one parent who they are far more difficult towards. I got the best of it and the worst of it in terms of good relationship and meltdowns but my husband had some really rough years to endure. difficult child went on a "Down with Dad" kick and had a steady supply of negative comments and behaviors for him. For the most part he just ignored it and in time it wore off. I think one of the hardest parts of parenting a difficult child child is that we miss out on a lot of the normal rewards of parenting. That's balanced out by a different sense of accomplishment and joy when our kids do well, but not at all the same for the long haul. [/QUOTE]
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