Just thought I'd continue here, just to break things up a little. Thanks so much you guys, it is so validating and is probably making the difference between this time and the last time I had a huge fight (when he was 8) with a district. So, I left off telling you that the law advocate had called the superintendent and the Special Education. director. One thing I forgot to tell you was how I got a little more validation to how they are trying to skew things. One of the big issues they have naturally, and I have this too so to act like I dont care is insane but... anyway... One of the issues they had is that while in DAPE he has chosen to play floor hockey. I have mentioned before, he is 1:1 DAPE and his aide stays. He has had no problems with this teacher since the medication reaction so aide can probably go out side and wait. BUT they said during the meeting from hell that he was told he could hit the puck as hard as he wanted (he told me this and was so excited because it felt so fun and good). They said he then started shooting it at the aide. It has happened repeatedly and when the school counselor came in the room he did it to him too. So during the meeting I am thinking.... OK you tried it once, but when something happened that reflects his... impulse control, inability to judge how hard or soft he does things, his sense of slap stick humor, etc... you give him the puck again and again??? And after the meeting I am talking with OUR psychiatric and law advocate and we are thinking why not a nerf ball or nerf puck?? Who gives a kid who has a history of not being able to regulate things such a toy that can be called a weapon and a danger??? SO the law advocate brings this up with the superintendent and the sp ed coordinator. Their response.. they ONLY have nerf pucks. HUH???? They made it seem like he had been purposely attacking people to HURT them. Q KNOWS that nerf does not hurt. He plays nerf guns with kids in the neighborhood which while I dont like it, happened because they were all playing (even the preschoolers) and the big kids divided teams nicely including making sure they stuck with Q to help him.... the social lessons were too priceless. He does not own one though. I would be pinged all the time, LOL So, you think they could have been honest about this?? NOPE they made it seem like the staff was going to have to go to HR and claim that they were working in a dangerous environment because Q was using NERF toys that THEY gave him over and over..... I about wanted to scream! OK issue two...for those who did not see my post from yesterday, they are saying now that I can only have a one hour tour of the proposed school class. This class is a school within a school class for students with unique needs (sun program) and the school it is in is a large EBD (Emotional and Behavior Disorder) School. So the mentality there is EBD and you now the complaints and attitudes will be from that perspective. I allowed Q to be in a class like that when he was in first grade and it was a disaster. They said they ahd Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) training but they used NONE of it and he had just come from a full on private autism therapy program for two years so there were some amazing things he was doing. They told me there was really no reason to teach him to read because why teach kids to read if they are going to end up in jail anyway. He was 6! Medically involved, autistic etc... so my view of this program WILL be skewed. I have to be that way for his sake. I wrote to the Special Education coordinator and told her if that is all they have to offer then there is no way I will consider it and not to hold your breath for me to do so. I said that they could extend it in my case by saying I am doing a CEU observation which we can do...get CEU's for our licenses by spending half or whole days in programs. If they deny that then I will know they are hiding something. I am so beyond upset and at least I can type here without crying..... I still well up but am swinging toward the mad and almost laughing at some of the absurdity. Thank you all, I have read and re read all of your comments. I printed out the support page to help my soul. Thank you is not even enough. I love you.