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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 653075" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>Good point, COM.</p><p></p><p>A lifesaving point, really. Part of standing up to all of it is that question, that scary little part of us that believes we are never going to make it out of the dark. In the thick of it, I would try to think myself ahead, to a time when I would feel better and more steady.</p><p></p><p>I couldn't do it.</p><p></p><p>That is why I am all about "Am I progressing?", now.</p><p></p><p>Sometimes, as COM posted to you Headlights, the one way we can be sure we are going to be able to make it through is that we are moving, at all.</p><p></p><p>Small steps.</p><p></p><p>It wasn't supposed to be like this. Out of all the things that might have been, the reality we are all faced with is one of the darkest and most painful to come to grips with.</p><p></p><p>But there are worse things.</p><p></p><p>There are layers of acceptance. There are layers to the things we let ourselves know. This is for our protection. I would always tell myself I would not be given more than I could take without breaking. </p><p></p><p>Sometimes, that is the only way I knew I was going to make it through.</p><p></p><p>Whatever it is that's happening, you will not give yourself more than you can stand.</p><p></p><p>You will not break. You will open.</p><p></p><p>That seems to be how it works.</p><p></p><p>***</p><p></p><p>You are here with us, now. We have been where you are, and we are coming through, <em>most days.</em> </p><p></p><p>But we are only human, after all. And some days and some weeks are very hard. But even just the ability to separate from it enough to realize where you are is progress.</p><p></p><p>Hang on. Keep moving, remember gratitude for the sunrise. Spend some time beneath the stars tonight, thinking nothing at all. When I could make a little space like that, I could breathe again.</p><p></p><p>It isn't cheating, to do that.</p><p></p><p>D H told me once to forgive myself for the way things are.</p><p></p><p>For everything. </p><p></p><p>I am sure he must have spoken just those words a hundred times. When I finally could hear him, something opened inside me. I realized how strong had been my self-condemnation. I got it, just how thoroughly I blamed myself for things that were not mine, things that in a way, had nothing to do with me. I began to be able to mourn for myself.</p><p></p><p>That was an important step.</p><p></p><p>At the bottom of that was compassion, not just for me, but for the courage all of us need, just to face what is.</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 653075, member: 17461"] Good point, COM. A lifesaving point, really. Part of standing up to all of it is that question, that scary little part of us that believes we are never going to make it out of the dark. In the thick of it, I would try to think myself ahead, to a time when I would feel better and more steady. I couldn't do it. That is why I am all about "Am I progressing?", now. Sometimes, as COM posted to you Headlights, the one way we can be sure we are going to be able to make it through is that we are moving, at all. Small steps. It wasn't supposed to be like this. Out of all the things that might have been, the reality we are all faced with is one of the darkest and most painful to come to grips with. But there are worse things. There are layers of acceptance. There are layers to the things we let ourselves know. This is for our protection. I would always tell myself I would not be given more than I could take without breaking. Sometimes, that is the only way I knew I was going to make it through. Whatever it is that's happening, you will not give yourself more than you can stand. You will not break. You will open. That seems to be how it works. *** You are here with us, now. We have been where you are, and we are coming through, [I]most days.[/I] But we are only human, after all. And some days and some weeks are very hard. But even just the ability to separate from it enough to realize where you are is progress. Hang on. Keep moving, remember gratitude for the sunrise. Spend some time beneath the stars tonight, thinking nothing at all. When I could make a little space like that, I could breathe again. It isn't cheating, to do that. D H told me once to forgive myself for the way things are. For everything. I am sure he must have spoken just those words a hundred times. When I finally could hear him, something opened inside me. I realized how strong had been my self-condemnation. I got it, just how thoroughly I blamed myself for things that were not mine, things that in a way, had nothing to do with me. I began to be able to mourn for myself. That was an important step. At the bottom of that was compassion, not just for me, but for the courage all of us need, just to face what is. Cedar [/QUOTE]
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