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Aaaaarrrgghhh!!!! The police jurisdictions keep throwing our case back and forth
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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 546116" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>Since he didn't get put in juvie at the time of his arrest and this is technically his first offense, chances are he won't get 5 mins in juvie, you will have little say but if you say community service the judge might order that since it's your first time there- but probation- OMG- most in the system are convinced it's all the parents' fault and will make darn sure the parent suffers more than the kid. Now it's your first experience and you're in a different jurisdiction so you might get lucky. I'm just saying I advise that you prepare yourself just in case. You could be revolving your schedule around them at least once a month for the next year so he'll have this erased from his record. Why should you care if he's being a tyrant at home? because they'll come after YOU if you don't. And IF (because maybe it won't work this way with you) he figures out that you are suffering more than he is- look out. I am so glad that my son is very close to turning 18yo so I can reinforce to him that HE is making his choices- good or bad- and HE will reap the rewards or suffer the consequences and I'll be darned if anyone in juvie is going to tell me otherwise.</p><p></p><p>I'm not saying I think you made a mistake by turning your son in- no more than I could sit by and lket my son continue doing all he was trying to do. But the people in the system might or might not back you up as a parent. And when they don't- your life becomes hell and the stakes keep getting higher for everyone involved.</p><p></p><p>You need to stay concentrated on this. I know another adult contributed to the current situation but I read it like the cops are wanting that part to go away- they are sticking by the issue with your son. Even if you said you'd drop the case against your son, chances are they won't. But really, it's been coming for a long time.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 546116, member: 3699"] Since he didn't get put in juvie at the time of his arrest and this is technically his first offense, chances are he won't get 5 mins in juvie, you will have little say but if you say community service the judge might order that since it's your first time there- but probation- OMG- most in the system are convinced it's all the parents' fault and will make darn sure the parent suffers more than the kid. Now it's your first experience and you're in a different jurisdiction so you might get lucky. I'm just saying I advise that you prepare yourself just in case. You could be revolving your schedule around them at least once a month for the next year so he'll have this erased from his record. Why should you care if he's being a tyrant at home? because they'll come after YOU if you don't. And IF (because maybe it won't work this way with you) he figures out that you are suffering more than he is- look out. I am so glad that my son is very close to turning 18yo so I can reinforce to him that HE is making his choices- good or bad- and HE will reap the rewards or suffer the consequences and I'll be darned if anyone in juvie is going to tell me otherwise. I'm not saying I think you made a mistake by turning your son in- no more than I could sit by and lket my son continue doing all he was trying to do. But the people in the system might or might not back you up as a parent. And when they don't- your life becomes hell and the stakes keep getting higher for everyone involved. You need to stay concentrated on this. I know another adult contributed to the current situation but I read it like the cops are wanting that part to go away- they are sticking by the issue with your son. Even if you said you'd drop the case against your son, chances are they won't. But really, it's been coming for a long time. [/QUOTE]
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