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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 173390" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>That environment can't be helping your anxiety, or Eric's. I would be amazed if you were NOT stressed by it all.</p><p></p><p>Feeling cheated though, is a waste of your energy. And that energy is likely to be limited. I know you don't choose to feel cheated in life, and it is very natural to feel resentful at having to put so much of your life on hold for your family. But until you can push that aside, it is going to get in your way and slow down your responses.</p><p></p><p>IS there any way you could move out? Or does she need yo there? Or you need to be there?</p><p></p><p>Could you compromise with her, draw a line somewhere and say, "On this side of the line, neatness is optional."? Or would that be impossible for her?</p><p></p><p>I realise now that a lot of my suggestions to enrich the stimulation of the living space or kid-proof it just would not work around your mother.</p><p></p><p>It seems that anything you try to do for your kids, would always have to take second place to the compromises you have to make for your mother.</p><p></p><p>First and foremost, it appears that SHE is the neediest difficult child of all in the house.</p><p></p><p>Now THAT would REALLY make me resentful!</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 173390, member: 1991"] That environment can't be helping your anxiety, or Eric's. I would be amazed if you were NOT stressed by it all. Feeling cheated though, is a waste of your energy. And that energy is likely to be limited. I know you don't choose to feel cheated in life, and it is very natural to feel resentful at having to put so much of your life on hold for your family. But until you can push that aside, it is going to get in your way and slow down your responses. IS there any way you could move out? Or does she need yo there? Or you need to be there? Could you compromise with her, draw a line somewhere and say, "On this side of the line, neatness is optional."? Or would that be impossible for her? I realise now that a lot of my suggestions to enrich the stimulation of the living space or kid-proof it just would not work around your mother. It seems that anything you try to do for your kids, would always have to take second place to the compromises you have to make for your mother. First and foremost, it appears that SHE is the neediest difficult child of all in the house. Now THAT would REALLY make me resentful! Marg [/QUOTE]
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