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<blockquote data-quote="tiredmommy" data-source="post: 308794" data-attributes="member: 1722"><p>{{{ML}}} I so get where you are at right now. I think the big thing to remember (and help Manster understand) is that he is living <em>his</em> life. He was born with inherent strengths and weaknesses that make him unique. The traits he brought into this world are neither good nor bad... they just <em>are</em>. Needing a service or an inclusive classroom isn't a reflection on him as a person, but rather a reflection of his educational needs... just as Totoro has previously stated. </p><p></p><p>Duckie goes through this... I think of it as a twisted version of sick gazelle syndrome. She still won't ask her gym teacher to go to the nurse if she needs her inhaler because she's embarrassed. Her music teacher has complemented her publicly about her pretty voice; she now is lip synching because she's self conscious. She doesn't want to be different even if she suffers for it. The need to be the same, to fit, is so strong in older children and teens. </p><p></p><p>I think, maybe, the key is to help our hopelessly different kids to make their own niche by playing on their strengths. And then maybe their weaknesses won't seem as big a deal to themselves.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="tiredmommy, post: 308794, member: 1722"] {{{ML}}} I so get where you are at right now. I think the big thing to remember (and help Manster understand) is that he is living [I]his[/I] life. He was born with inherent strengths and weaknesses that make him unique. The traits he brought into this world are neither good nor bad... they just [I]are[/I]. Needing a service or an inclusive classroom isn't a reflection on him as a person, but rather a reflection of his educational needs... just as Totoro has previously stated. Duckie goes through this... I think of it as a twisted version of sick gazelle syndrome. She still won't ask her gym teacher to go to the nurse if she needs her inhaler because she's embarrassed. Her music teacher has complemented her publicly about her pretty voice; she now is lip synching because she's self conscious. She doesn't want to be different even if she suffers for it. The need to be the same, to fit, is so strong in older children and teens. I think, maybe, the key is to help our hopelessly different kids to make their own niche by playing on their strengths. And then maybe their weaknesses won't seem as big a deal to themselves. [/QUOTE]
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